Motivation is the rationale or reason, i.e., the underlying principle behind all that we humans do. Motivation is reward driven and, as such, must have a goal as its target worthy of attaining lest the reward not be great enough to light that initial internal fire that helps us to attain it to begin with! One often finds it difficult to find the motivation to get motivated. Paradoxical? Yes. However, a truth one cannot ignore.
So, we all know that we need to get motivated but how does one, odd as this question may seem, find the motivation to get (and stay) motivated? In the following, we will discuss some strategies for developing a platform for motivation as it relates to goal attainment. Bear in mind, it is understood that it often takes motivation (and granted, lots of it) to accomplish the following, however, if one can implement these things in one’s life and partake of them on a regular basis, motivation will come more easily for other, more difficult endeavors.
Exercise - Start a regular program of exercise. Whether it be resistance training, cardio, Pilates, yoga…whatever. Exercising three times per week provides one with many benefits. Regular exercise (consisting of at least 30 minutes 3 times per week) has been shown to improve mood, reduce stress, strengthen the body, provide for more energy, improve sleep, reduce the likelihood of disease, etc. Despite the many benefits, it also just makes one feel really good. And if one is healthy, has ample energy and feels good most of the time, well, it is a heck of a lot easier to get motivated and stay motivated to do other things!
Eat right - Eating a well-balanced, healthy diet will help one by providing the energy required for exercise (and life more generally). If one eats well he or she feels well and is well. The benefits of a healthy diet, jut to list a few are: reduced risk of heart disease, reduced risk of certain types of cancers, more energy, aids in weight management, etc. A healthy diet helps both to fuel and sustain the body and mind.
Meditate - By "meditate," it is not necessarily meant that one need enter a monastery and "hum" for hours on end while sitting in the lotus position (though this will work too!) "Meditate" here simply refers to relaxation and one can relax in any host of ways. A common approach to meditation/relaxation is to sit with eyes closed and in a comfortable position, relax, and breathe in deeply for a count of 4. Hold the breath for a count of 7, and finally, exhale for a count of 8. Repeat this 4 times. Or, if one prefers, he or she can sit in the above position, eyes closed and simply breathe in and out, monitoring the breath for a period of 5, 10 or 15 minutes.
Meditation provides the following benefits: a deeper level of relaxation, decreases muscle tension, slows heart rate, reduces anxiety, elevates mood, increases energy levels, boosts self awareness and much, much more. The key is that meditation helps one to de-stress. And if one is free from the bonds of stress, then he or she can accomplish much more.
Add any one or more (preferably all) to your daily routine and watch yourself become more equipped to handle life’s many challenges but, more importantly, you will find yourself becoming more energized, focused, and…motivated! Good luck!
Monday, March 31, 2008
Motivation Sabotage
Motivation is often hard to come by, especially for those things we know that we need to be doing but just can’t seem to bring ourselves to do (e.g., starting that diet we’ve talked about for years, joining the gym, saving more money, etc.) Even worse, every once in a blue moon we are able to wrangle up the motivation needed to get started on our goal and then, the motivation dissipates seemingly no sooner than it emerged!
This is motivational sabotage and to follow we will take a closer look at some of the factors that contribute to this sabotage. So read on, take heed, and learn about these factors so that you can avoid them and overcome them if they raise their head up on your path to successful goal attainment.
Your goal isn’t realistic. We oftentimes desire many things and set goals for achieving or obtaining those things. We can be successful only when our goals are in fact attainable. One must carefully evaluate his or her desires prior to goal formation lest one set him or herself up for failure from the beginning by setting a goal that isn’t a current possibility. Be realistic in your goal setting.
Your goal isn’t a priority. Once you set a goal, if in you indeed desire to attain that goal then you need to prioritize your life such that each day progress is made toward the goal. If the goal one sets isn’t something important to him or her such that it can become a daily priority, then it isn’t a goal worthy of seeking and it likely won’t ever be realized in any case.
You don’t truly desire your goal. Oftentimes, we say that we "need" to do this or that we "need" to go that. For example, we sometimes know that we need to spend less money, get more sleep, eat a better diet, get in shape, etc. Though we know that we need to these things, we don’t truly want to have to do these things. We really just want the results. If you don’t want it—truly desire it, then you will not have it.
Fear of failure. We sometimes set ourselves up for failure from the beginning by the lack of confidence that we have in ourselves. We have failed before and we have serious doubts as to whether or not we can in fact attain our goals and turn our desires into reality. The fact of the matter is if one doubts himself, if one entertains thoughts of negativity, he or she is all the more likely to fail.
Don’t entertain ideas of failure. Failure is not an option. Neither is failure something to be feared, for it does not exist for there is no such thing as terminal failure—failure is nothing more than a temporary setback or detour on one’s path to success. If you truly desire that which you pursue, not even failure can stop you from attaining it!
This is motivational sabotage and to follow we will take a closer look at some of the factors that contribute to this sabotage. So read on, take heed, and learn about these factors so that you can avoid them and overcome them if they raise their head up on your path to successful goal attainment.
Your goal isn’t realistic. We oftentimes desire many things and set goals for achieving or obtaining those things. We can be successful only when our goals are in fact attainable. One must carefully evaluate his or her desires prior to goal formation lest one set him or herself up for failure from the beginning by setting a goal that isn’t a current possibility. Be realistic in your goal setting.
Your goal isn’t a priority. Once you set a goal, if in you indeed desire to attain that goal then you need to prioritize your life such that each day progress is made toward the goal. If the goal one sets isn’t something important to him or her such that it can become a daily priority, then it isn’t a goal worthy of seeking and it likely won’t ever be realized in any case.
You don’t truly desire your goal. Oftentimes, we say that we "need" to do this or that we "need" to go that. For example, we sometimes know that we need to spend less money, get more sleep, eat a better diet, get in shape, etc. Though we know that we need to these things, we don’t truly want to have to do these things. We really just want the results. If you don’t want it—truly desire it, then you will not have it.
Fear of failure. We sometimes set ourselves up for failure from the beginning by the lack of confidence that we have in ourselves. We have failed before and we have serious doubts as to whether or not we can in fact attain our goals and turn our desires into reality. The fact of the matter is if one doubts himself, if one entertains thoughts of negativity, he or she is all the more likely to fail.
Don’t entertain ideas of failure. Failure is not an option. Neither is failure something to be feared, for it does not exist for there is no such thing as terminal failure—failure is nothing more than a temporary setback or detour on one’s path to success. If you truly desire that which you pursue, not even failure can stop you from attaining it!
The Habits Of The Highly Successful
Success is a habit for some. Why? Because many have mastered the habits of the highly successful. These habits are commonsensical and easy to implement into one’s life. Want to learn about the habits of the highly successful? Read on…
Success is intricately bound up with behavior. We each and every one reap the benefits (or the contrary) of our behaviors. Certain behaviors will take us far in life and others will hold us back—simple law of the universe. With this in mind, one desirous of success should seek to make habitual in his or her life those behaviors which are most conducive to and prerequisite for success.
The Habit of Organization. A life free from clutter is a life more conducive to success. Organize all around you (your home, your office, your car, etc.) and you will find yourself calmer, less agitated, and more prone to take action. Clutter interferes with productivity and takes focus, energy, as well as time from us that we could otherwise be utilizing for progress toward our goals.
The Habit of Prioritization. Face it; we are all seemingly busier today than we ever have been in the past. We have countless things competing for our attention. There is our family, our friends, our jobs, and so on. One must separate out that which we wish to accomplish and need to accomplish in each arena and prioritize in order of importance. Otherwise, the mundane and secondary things will divert us off path and perhaps place us even further behind than we were to start with.
The Habit of Taking Action. Once you have organized your life and environment and have subsequently prioritized your goals, you are then in a position to take action (though not prior to this). If there is one habit that highly successful people share it is that of action taking. Procrastination itself is an action that one chooses to take…why not use your choice more wisely and put your energy and efforts into a more positive course of action? Taking action is like taking steps. You do so one at a time but before you know it you’ve walked a hundred miles!
The Habit of Pursuing Victory. The successful pay no mind to failure, victory is always the goal and they will do anything to attain it. One must want to win to in fact win. Develop the habit of pursuing victory and seeing failure as it really is—a speed bump or detour on the path to success perhaps, but not itself a dead end.
Success is not an elusive, ethereal entity that some simply luck up upon by serendipity. On the contrary, it is something concrete and there for the taking of all who pursue it. It will most readily be found when the above habits are in place. Implement them today in your life and achieve the success that you so desire.
Success is intricately bound up with behavior. We each and every one reap the benefits (or the contrary) of our behaviors. Certain behaviors will take us far in life and others will hold us back—simple law of the universe. With this in mind, one desirous of success should seek to make habitual in his or her life those behaviors which are most conducive to and prerequisite for success.
The Habit of Organization. A life free from clutter is a life more conducive to success. Organize all around you (your home, your office, your car, etc.) and you will find yourself calmer, less agitated, and more prone to take action. Clutter interferes with productivity and takes focus, energy, as well as time from us that we could otherwise be utilizing for progress toward our goals.
The Habit of Prioritization. Face it; we are all seemingly busier today than we ever have been in the past. We have countless things competing for our attention. There is our family, our friends, our jobs, and so on. One must separate out that which we wish to accomplish and need to accomplish in each arena and prioritize in order of importance. Otherwise, the mundane and secondary things will divert us off path and perhaps place us even further behind than we were to start with.
The Habit of Taking Action. Once you have organized your life and environment and have subsequently prioritized your goals, you are then in a position to take action (though not prior to this). If there is one habit that highly successful people share it is that of action taking. Procrastination itself is an action that one chooses to take…why not use your choice more wisely and put your energy and efforts into a more positive course of action? Taking action is like taking steps. You do so one at a time but before you know it you’ve walked a hundred miles!
The Habit of Pursuing Victory. The successful pay no mind to failure, victory is always the goal and they will do anything to attain it. One must want to win to in fact win. Develop the habit of pursuing victory and seeing failure as it really is—a speed bump or detour on the path to success perhaps, but not itself a dead end.
Success is not an elusive, ethereal entity that some simply luck up upon by serendipity. On the contrary, it is something concrete and there for the taking of all who pursue it. It will most readily be found when the above habits are in place. Implement them today in your life and achieve the success that you so desire.
The Three Secrets Of Change
Change… it is inevitable. At times, we humans seek to avoid it at all costs because change takes us into the unknown making us uncomfortable — frightening us even. This is so in that we prefer stasis to change, we attempt to hold on to the world around us as it is because this is what we believe to be the source of our very comfort.
Paradoxically, at other times we welcome change even to the point of seeking it out. Typically this is brought about misery — the misery of our own condition at the time. Perhaps we are in ill health, overweight, low on money, in a bad relationship, etc. We become so unhappy and dissatisfied with something in our lives that we cry out for change to come. It is at times like these, however, that change often does not seem to move as quickly as when it is not so welcomed into our lives.
Regardless, when change is sought it can be found. If you are serious about making changes in your life, then pay careful attention to the following "three secrets of change" to follow and you will soon see change pouring down upon you as a spring shower.
Think thoughts conducive to change - All of the world’s major religions have something to say about the power of thought over us. The Buddha taught that a man creates reality with his very mind. Christianity teaches that as a man thinks so shall he in fact be. This is obviously true. Granted, oftentimes people aren’t thinking thoughts conducive to success when they in fact, by shear luck (or good karma?) stumble upon it. However, the majority of time our thoughts dictate our outcomes.
If we think that we can accomplish something, whether it be a simple change of habit, a change of job, or the pursuit of perfect health, if we in fact think thoughts of possibility rather than failure, we are much more prone to succeed. Search your mind throughout the day and ensure that all of your thoughts are in accord with your goals—not mental hindrances. This takes some practice to be sure but the effort is well worth it. A positive mind is fertile ground for the seeds of accomplishment.
Take action - Another secret to positive change is that of taking action. Simply thinking thoughts conducive to success will not itself guarantee success. One must act upon his or her thoughts and desires, aggressively pursuing an outcome or goal. Ninety percent of the time individuals who set goals do not, in the end, follow through and attain their goals.
While it is often difficult to take that initial step towards the goal, which requires much motivation, it does in fact become easier with each progressive step towards the goal. It is imperative early on to act upon the attainment of the desired object as this sets the stage for success whereas procrastination hinders success and eventually quenches the fire of motivation.
Persevere - Persistence is key to any successful change in one’s life. Persistence can be defined, for our intents as purposes, as the continuance of action. In other words, one persists in taking steps toward the goal, no matter how insignificant the steps toward the goal may in fact be. The eyes are always set upon the target and every step is progress in that direction and there will be no deviation until the end result is acquired. Perseverance is life’s forward momentum.
So how does one achieve a desired change in one’s life? First, the mind must be a motor propelling the body forward with its positive energy—think thoughts conducive to change. Secondly, one must ever take action, never yielding to procrastination. What you put off today will be harder to do tomorrow. Finally, be persistent and continue on in action. A step, no matter how tiny, is still a step. Follow these three principles of change and you will reap the rewards and attain the success that you desire.
Change… it is inevitable. At times, we humans seek to avoid it at all costs because change takes us into the unknown making us uncomfortable — frightening us even. This is so in that we prefer stasis to change, we attempt to hold on to the world around us as it is because this is what we believe to be the source of our very comfort.
Paradoxically, at other times we welcome change even to the point of seeking it out. Typically this is brought about misery — the misery of our own condition at the time. Perhaps we are in ill health, overweight, low on money, in a bad relationship, etc. We become so unhappy and dissatisfied with something in our lives that we cry out for change to come. It is at times like these, however, that change often does not seem to move as quickly as when it is not so welcomed into our lives.
Regardless, when change is sought it can be found. If you are serious about making changes in your life, then pay careful attention to the following "three secrets of change" to follow and you will soon see change pouring down upon you as a spring shower.
Think thoughts conducive to change - All of the world’s major religions have something to say about the power of thought over us. The Buddha taught that a man creates reality with his very mind. Christianity teaches that as a man thinks so shall he in fact be. This is obviously true. Granted, oftentimes people aren’t thinking thoughts conducive to success when they in fact, by shear luck (or good karma?) stumble upon it. However, the majority of time our thoughts dictate our outcomes.
If we think that we can accomplish something, whether it be a simple change of habit, a change of job, or the pursuit of perfect health, if we in fact think thoughts of possibility rather than failure, we are much more prone to succeed. Search your mind throughout the day and ensure that all of your thoughts are in accord with your goals—not mental hindrances. This takes some practice to be sure but the effort is well worth it. A positive mind is fertile ground for the seeds of accomplishment.
Take action - Another secret to positive change is that of taking action. Simply thinking thoughts conducive to success will not itself guarantee success. One must act upon his or her thoughts and desires, aggressively pursuing an outcome or goal. Ninety percent of the time individuals who set goals do not, in the end, follow through and attain their goals.
While it is often difficult to take that initial step towards the goal, which requires much motivation, it does in fact become easier with each progressive step towards the goal. It is imperative early on to act upon the attainment of the desired object as this sets the stage for success whereas procrastination hinders success and eventually quenches the fire of motivation.
Persevere - Persistence is key to any successful change in one’s life. Persistence can be defined, for our intents as purposes, as the continuance of action. In other words, one persists in taking steps toward the goal, no matter how insignificant the steps toward the goal may in fact be. The eyes are always set upon the target and every step is progress in that direction and there will be no deviation until the end result is acquired. Perseverance is life’s forward momentum.
So how does one achieve a desired change in one’s life? First, the mind must be a motor propelling the body forward with its positive energy—think thoughts conducive to change. Secondly, one must ever take action, never yielding to procrastination. What you put off today will be harder to do tomorrow. Finally, be persistent and continue on in action. A step, no matter how tiny, is still a step. Follow these three principles of change and you will reap the rewards and attain the success that you desire.
Paradoxically, at other times we welcome change even to the point of seeking it out. Typically this is brought about misery — the misery of our own condition at the time. Perhaps we are in ill health, overweight, low on money, in a bad relationship, etc. We become so unhappy and dissatisfied with something in our lives that we cry out for change to come. It is at times like these, however, that change often does not seem to move as quickly as when it is not so welcomed into our lives.
Regardless, when change is sought it can be found. If you are serious about making changes in your life, then pay careful attention to the following "three secrets of change" to follow and you will soon see change pouring down upon you as a spring shower.
Think thoughts conducive to change - All of the world’s major religions have something to say about the power of thought over us. The Buddha taught that a man creates reality with his very mind. Christianity teaches that as a man thinks so shall he in fact be. This is obviously true. Granted, oftentimes people aren’t thinking thoughts conducive to success when they in fact, by shear luck (or good karma?) stumble upon it. However, the majority of time our thoughts dictate our outcomes.
If we think that we can accomplish something, whether it be a simple change of habit, a change of job, or the pursuit of perfect health, if we in fact think thoughts of possibility rather than failure, we are much more prone to succeed. Search your mind throughout the day and ensure that all of your thoughts are in accord with your goals—not mental hindrances. This takes some practice to be sure but the effort is well worth it. A positive mind is fertile ground for the seeds of accomplishment.
Take action - Another secret to positive change is that of taking action. Simply thinking thoughts conducive to success will not itself guarantee success. One must act upon his or her thoughts and desires, aggressively pursuing an outcome or goal. Ninety percent of the time individuals who set goals do not, in the end, follow through and attain their goals.
While it is often difficult to take that initial step towards the goal, which requires much motivation, it does in fact become easier with each progressive step towards the goal. It is imperative early on to act upon the attainment of the desired object as this sets the stage for success whereas procrastination hinders success and eventually quenches the fire of motivation.
Persevere - Persistence is key to any successful change in one’s life. Persistence can be defined, for our intents as purposes, as the continuance of action. In other words, one persists in taking steps toward the goal, no matter how insignificant the steps toward the goal may in fact be. The eyes are always set upon the target and every step is progress in that direction and there will be no deviation until the end result is acquired. Perseverance is life’s forward momentum.
So how does one achieve a desired change in one’s life? First, the mind must be a motor propelling the body forward with its positive energy—think thoughts conducive to change. Secondly, one must ever take action, never yielding to procrastination. What you put off today will be harder to do tomorrow. Finally, be persistent and continue on in action. A step, no matter how tiny, is still a step. Follow these three principles of change and you will reap the rewards and attain the success that you desire.
Change… it is inevitable. At times, we humans seek to avoid it at all costs because change takes us into the unknown making us uncomfortable — frightening us even. This is so in that we prefer stasis to change, we attempt to hold on to the world around us as it is because this is what we believe to be the source of our very comfort.
Paradoxically, at other times we welcome change even to the point of seeking it out. Typically this is brought about misery — the misery of our own condition at the time. Perhaps we are in ill health, overweight, low on money, in a bad relationship, etc. We become so unhappy and dissatisfied with something in our lives that we cry out for change to come. It is at times like these, however, that change often does not seem to move as quickly as when it is not so welcomed into our lives.
Regardless, when change is sought it can be found. If you are serious about making changes in your life, then pay careful attention to the following "three secrets of change" to follow and you will soon see change pouring down upon you as a spring shower.
Think thoughts conducive to change - All of the world’s major religions have something to say about the power of thought over us. The Buddha taught that a man creates reality with his very mind. Christianity teaches that as a man thinks so shall he in fact be. This is obviously true. Granted, oftentimes people aren’t thinking thoughts conducive to success when they in fact, by shear luck (or good karma?) stumble upon it. However, the majority of time our thoughts dictate our outcomes.
If we think that we can accomplish something, whether it be a simple change of habit, a change of job, or the pursuit of perfect health, if we in fact think thoughts of possibility rather than failure, we are much more prone to succeed. Search your mind throughout the day and ensure that all of your thoughts are in accord with your goals—not mental hindrances. This takes some practice to be sure but the effort is well worth it. A positive mind is fertile ground for the seeds of accomplishment.
Take action - Another secret to positive change is that of taking action. Simply thinking thoughts conducive to success will not itself guarantee success. One must act upon his or her thoughts and desires, aggressively pursuing an outcome or goal. Ninety percent of the time individuals who set goals do not, in the end, follow through and attain their goals.
While it is often difficult to take that initial step towards the goal, which requires much motivation, it does in fact become easier with each progressive step towards the goal. It is imperative early on to act upon the attainment of the desired object as this sets the stage for success whereas procrastination hinders success and eventually quenches the fire of motivation.
Persevere - Persistence is key to any successful change in one’s life. Persistence can be defined, for our intents as purposes, as the continuance of action. In other words, one persists in taking steps toward the goal, no matter how insignificant the steps toward the goal may in fact be. The eyes are always set upon the target and every step is progress in that direction and there will be no deviation until the end result is acquired. Perseverance is life’s forward momentum.
So how does one achieve a desired change in one’s life? First, the mind must be a motor propelling the body forward with its positive energy—think thoughts conducive to change. Secondly, one must ever take action, never yielding to procrastination. What you put off today will be harder to do tomorrow. Finally, be persistent and continue on in action. A step, no matter how tiny, is still a step. Follow these three principles of change and you will reap the rewards and attain the success that you desire.
The Three Secrets Of Change
Change… it is inevitable. At times, we humans seek to avoid it at all costs because change takes us into the unknown making us uncomfortable — frightening us even. This is so in that we prefer stasis to change, we attempt to hold on to the world around us as it is because this is what we believe to be the source of our very comfort.
Paradoxically, at other times we welcome change even to the point of seeking it out. Typically this is brought about misery — the misery of our own condition at the time. Perhaps we are in ill health, overweight, low on money, in a bad relationship, etc. We become so unhappy and dissatisfied with something in our lives that we cry out for change to come. It is at times like these, however, that change often does not seem to move as quickly as when it is not so welcomed into our lives.
Regardless, when change is sought it can be found. If you are serious about making changes in your life, then pay careful attention to the following "three secrets of change" to follow and you will soon see change pouring down upon you as a spring shower.
Think thoughts conducive to change - All of the world’s major religions have something to say about the power of thought over us. The Buddha taught that a man creates reality with his very mind. Christianity teaches that as a man thinks so shall he in fact be. This is obviously true. Granted, oftentimes people aren’t thinking thoughts conducive to success when they in fact, by shear luck (or good karma?) stumble upon it. However, the majority of time our thoughts dictate our outcomes.
If we think that we can accomplish something, whether it be a simple change of habit, a change of job, or the pursuit of perfect health, if we in fact think thoughts of possibility rather than failure, we are much more prone to succeed. Search your mind throughout the day and ensure that all of your thoughts are in accord with your goals—not mental hindrances. This takes some practice to be sure but the effort is well worth it. A positive mind is fertile ground for the seeds of accomplishment.
Take action - Another secret to positive change is that of taking action. Simply thinking thoughts conducive to success will not itself guarantee success. One must act upon his or her thoughts and desires, aggressively pursuing an outcome or goal. Ninety percent of the time individuals who set goals do not, in the end, follow through and attain their goals.
While it is often difficult to take that initial step towards the goal, which requires much motivation, it does in fact become easier with each progressive step towards the goal. It is imperative early on to act upon the attainment of the desired object as this sets the stage for success whereas procrastination hinders success and eventually quenches the fire of motivation.
Persevere - Persistence is key to any successful change in one’s life. Persistence can be defined, for our intents as purposes, as the continuance of action. In other words, one persists in taking steps toward the goal, no matter how insignificant the steps toward the goal may in fact be. The eyes are always set upon the target and every step is progress in that direction and there will be no deviation until the end result is acquired. Perseverance is life’s forward momentum.
So how does one achieve a desired change in one’s life? First, the mind must be a motor propelling the body forward with its positive energy—think thoughts conducive to change. Secondly, one must ever take action, never yielding to procrastination. What you put off today will be harder to do tomorrow. Finally, be persistent and continue on in action. A step, no matter how tiny, is still a step. Follow these three principles of change and you will reap the rewards and attain the success that you desire.
Change… it is inevitable. At times, we humans seek to avoid it at all costs because change takes us into the unknown making us uncomfortable — frightening us even. This is so in that we prefer stasis to change, we attempt to hold on to the world around us as it is because this is what we believe to be the source of our very comfort.
Paradoxically, at other times we welcome change even to the point of seeking it out. Typically this is brought about misery — the misery of our own condition at the time. Perhaps we are in ill health, overweight, low on money, in a bad relationship, etc. We become so unhappy and dissatisfied with something in our lives that we cry out for change to come. It is at times like these, however, that change often does not seem to move as quickly as when it is not so welcomed into our lives.
Regardless, when change is sought it can be found. If you are serious about making changes in your life, then pay careful attention to the following "three secrets of change" to follow and you will soon see change pouring down upon you as a spring shower.
Think thoughts conducive to change - All of the world’s major religions have something to say about the power of thought over us. The Buddha taught that a man creates reality with his very mind. Christianity teaches that as a man thinks so shall he in fact be. This is obviously true. Granted, oftentimes people aren’t thinking thoughts conducive to success when they in fact, by shear luck (or good karma?) stumble upon it. However, the majority of time our thoughts dictate our outcomes.
If we think that we can accomplish something, whether it be a simple change of habit, a change of job, or the pursuit of perfect health, if we in fact think thoughts of possibility rather than failure, we are much more prone to succeed. Search your mind throughout the day and ensure that all of your thoughts are in accord with your goals—not mental hindrances. This takes some practice to be sure but the effort is well worth it. A positive mind is fertile ground for the seeds of accomplishment.
Take action - Another secret to positive change is that of taking action. Simply thinking thoughts conducive to success will not itself guarantee success. One must act upon his or her thoughts and desires, aggressively pursuing an outcome or goal. Ninety percent of the time individuals who set goals do not, in the end, follow through and attain their goals.
While it is often difficult to take that initial step towards the goal, which requires much motivation, it does in fact become easier with each progressive step towards the goal. It is imperative early on to act upon the attainment of the desired object as this sets the stage for success whereas procrastination hinders success and eventually quenches the fire of motivation.
Persevere - Persistence is key to any successful change in one’s life. Persistence can be defined, for our intents as purposes, as the continuance of action. In other words, one persists in taking steps toward the goal, no matter how insignificant the steps toward the goal may in fact be. The eyes are always set upon the target and every step is progress in that direction and there will be no deviation until the end result is acquired. Perseverance is life’s forward momentum.
So how does one achieve a desired change in one’s life? First, the mind must be a motor propelling the body forward with its positive energy—think thoughts conducive to change. Secondly, one must ever take action, never yielding to procrastination. What you put off today will be harder to do tomorrow. Finally, be persistent and continue on in action. A step, no matter how tiny, is still a step. Follow these three principles of change and you will reap the rewards and attain the success that you desire.
Paradoxically, at other times we welcome change even to the point of seeking it out. Typically this is brought about misery — the misery of our own condition at the time. Perhaps we are in ill health, overweight, low on money, in a bad relationship, etc. We become so unhappy and dissatisfied with something in our lives that we cry out for change to come. It is at times like these, however, that change often does not seem to move as quickly as when it is not so welcomed into our lives.
Regardless, when change is sought it can be found. If you are serious about making changes in your life, then pay careful attention to the following "three secrets of change" to follow and you will soon see change pouring down upon you as a spring shower.
Think thoughts conducive to change - All of the world’s major religions have something to say about the power of thought over us. The Buddha taught that a man creates reality with his very mind. Christianity teaches that as a man thinks so shall he in fact be. This is obviously true. Granted, oftentimes people aren’t thinking thoughts conducive to success when they in fact, by shear luck (or good karma?) stumble upon it. However, the majority of time our thoughts dictate our outcomes.
If we think that we can accomplish something, whether it be a simple change of habit, a change of job, or the pursuit of perfect health, if we in fact think thoughts of possibility rather than failure, we are much more prone to succeed. Search your mind throughout the day and ensure that all of your thoughts are in accord with your goals—not mental hindrances. This takes some practice to be sure but the effort is well worth it. A positive mind is fertile ground for the seeds of accomplishment.
Take action - Another secret to positive change is that of taking action. Simply thinking thoughts conducive to success will not itself guarantee success. One must act upon his or her thoughts and desires, aggressively pursuing an outcome or goal. Ninety percent of the time individuals who set goals do not, in the end, follow through and attain their goals.
While it is often difficult to take that initial step towards the goal, which requires much motivation, it does in fact become easier with each progressive step towards the goal. It is imperative early on to act upon the attainment of the desired object as this sets the stage for success whereas procrastination hinders success and eventually quenches the fire of motivation.
Persevere - Persistence is key to any successful change in one’s life. Persistence can be defined, for our intents as purposes, as the continuance of action. In other words, one persists in taking steps toward the goal, no matter how insignificant the steps toward the goal may in fact be. The eyes are always set upon the target and every step is progress in that direction and there will be no deviation until the end result is acquired. Perseverance is life’s forward momentum.
So how does one achieve a desired change in one’s life? First, the mind must be a motor propelling the body forward with its positive energy—think thoughts conducive to change. Secondly, one must ever take action, never yielding to procrastination. What you put off today will be harder to do tomorrow. Finally, be persistent and continue on in action. A step, no matter how tiny, is still a step. Follow these three principles of change and you will reap the rewards and attain the success that you desire.
Change… it is inevitable. At times, we humans seek to avoid it at all costs because change takes us into the unknown making us uncomfortable — frightening us even. This is so in that we prefer stasis to change, we attempt to hold on to the world around us as it is because this is what we believe to be the source of our very comfort.
Paradoxically, at other times we welcome change even to the point of seeking it out. Typically this is brought about misery — the misery of our own condition at the time. Perhaps we are in ill health, overweight, low on money, in a bad relationship, etc. We become so unhappy and dissatisfied with something in our lives that we cry out for change to come. It is at times like these, however, that change often does not seem to move as quickly as when it is not so welcomed into our lives.
Regardless, when change is sought it can be found. If you are serious about making changes in your life, then pay careful attention to the following "three secrets of change" to follow and you will soon see change pouring down upon you as a spring shower.
Think thoughts conducive to change - All of the world’s major religions have something to say about the power of thought over us. The Buddha taught that a man creates reality with his very mind. Christianity teaches that as a man thinks so shall he in fact be. This is obviously true. Granted, oftentimes people aren’t thinking thoughts conducive to success when they in fact, by shear luck (or good karma?) stumble upon it. However, the majority of time our thoughts dictate our outcomes.
If we think that we can accomplish something, whether it be a simple change of habit, a change of job, or the pursuit of perfect health, if we in fact think thoughts of possibility rather than failure, we are much more prone to succeed. Search your mind throughout the day and ensure that all of your thoughts are in accord with your goals—not mental hindrances. This takes some practice to be sure but the effort is well worth it. A positive mind is fertile ground for the seeds of accomplishment.
Take action - Another secret to positive change is that of taking action. Simply thinking thoughts conducive to success will not itself guarantee success. One must act upon his or her thoughts and desires, aggressively pursuing an outcome or goal. Ninety percent of the time individuals who set goals do not, in the end, follow through and attain their goals.
While it is often difficult to take that initial step towards the goal, which requires much motivation, it does in fact become easier with each progressive step towards the goal. It is imperative early on to act upon the attainment of the desired object as this sets the stage for success whereas procrastination hinders success and eventually quenches the fire of motivation.
Persevere - Persistence is key to any successful change in one’s life. Persistence can be defined, for our intents as purposes, as the continuance of action. In other words, one persists in taking steps toward the goal, no matter how insignificant the steps toward the goal may in fact be. The eyes are always set upon the target and every step is progress in that direction and there will be no deviation until the end result is acquired. Perseverance is life’s forward momentum.
So how does one achieve a desired change in one’s life? First, the mind must be a motor propelling the body forward with its positive energy—think thoughts conducive to change. Secondly, one must ever take action, never yielding to procrastination. What you put off today will be harder to do tomorrow. Finally, be persistent and continue on in action. A step, no matter how tiny, is still a step. Follow these three principles of change and you will reap the rewards and attain the success that you desire.
4 Signs That You May Have An Anger Problem
You may not want to admit it, but many of you already know that at least one point of your life, you have had a problem with anger. But there are many people out there who are not quite sure if they have an issue with anger. To help you find out, below are some indicators:
1. When you do get angry, you do not get over it for a long time. It may last until you explode sometimes, or the anger may even stay inside of you, to fuel the fires of your rage. If you have heard of people who “hold a grudge” then those are the ones that I am referring to here.
Do you have a tendency to hold grudges? Can you think of more than one person right now, whom you have not talked to in a long time that you are still angry with?
2. You spend most of the time feeling frustrated and irritable. You get disappointed as well as unsatisfied about almost anything in life. But with all of these negative feelings you have, you do not in fact get very angry.
Anger may be an unacceptable emotion to you, whereas frustration and irritability seem more acceptable, thus keeping you in a constant state of unfulfilled in life.
3. Another sign of anger problem is if you never get angry. You just seem to be void of experiencing that emotion. There are times when you know you should be getting angry, but the feeling just doesn't seem to come. Your anger seems very mild or watered down, and you never are able to release it.
4. Last but not least, you may have an anger problem if you tend to be very sarcastic or cynical not only about yourself, but everyone and the world around you. Your time around people is spent on judging other people and making constant “jokes” that have very negative connotations around them.
Although you try to make yourself believe that these jokes are harmless, deep inside you know that constantly putting everything down and disguising it as a joke is just a way to cover up your anger issues. For some reason you are not able to express your anger and it becomes apparent when it is “leaking” from your conversations.
1. When you do get angry, you do not get over it for a long time. It may last until you explode sometimes, or the anger may even stay inside of you, to fuel the fires of your rage. If you have heard of people who “hold a grudge” then those are the ones that I am referring to here.
Do you have a tendency to hold grudges? Can you think of more than one person right now, whom you have not talked to in a long time that you are still angry with?
2. You spend most of the time feeling frustrated and irritable. You get disappointed as well as unsatisfied about almost anything in life. But with all of these negative feelings you have, you do not in fact get very angry.
Anger may be an unacceptable emotion to you, whereas frustration and irritability seem more acceptable, thus keeping you in a constant state of unfulfilled in life.
3. Another sign of anger problem is if you never get angry. You just seem to be void of experiencing that emotion. There are times when you know you should be getting angry, but the feeling just doesn't seem to come. Your anger seems very mild or watered down, and you never are able to release it.
4. Last but not least, you may have an anger problem if you tend to be very sarcastic or cynical not only about yourself, but everyone and the world around you. Your time around people is spent on judging other people and making constant “jokes” that have very negative connotations around them.
Although you try to make yourself believe that these jokes are harmless, deep inside you know that constantly putting everything down and disguising it as a joke is just a way to cover up your anger issues. For some reason you are not able to express your anger and it becomes apparent when it is “leaking” from your conversations.
Anger Management Is Not A Punishment
Every minute there is someone in the US battered. Some of them die because they stayed too long in a relationship that was doomed to fail. Many of those who went back were beaten and hurt because the other person claimed to be seeking help by anger management. To some people it's a game of cat and mouse.
Don't be confused on the battered syndrome. Anger is not just a male thing, but women are increasing in their aggression. There is only a small percentage of women who are claimed as batterers however, the statistics claim that the number could be larger because most men don't come forward. Some women can be just as deadly as man.
Anger management is often used as a tool of punishment. If you are guilty of assault and battery then you get some time in anger management. People use this tool as a solution; however, it is not the solution to the problem. The problem is that people can't control themselves and the anger management classes do not cure a person, but helps guide them.
If you are in a relationship and the other person is forced legally to go to the classes, don't feel secure about the relationship.
The person did not choose to go and find help, but they forced. When you force a person to seek help, they will go against their free will, feed the class a bunch of bull, and say what they think others want to hear.
They play the game and some have played the game very well. Those who are in anger management voluntarily is more likely to change than one that was forced. Anger management is a great way to learn techniques on controlling yourself, and it's a place where, you can get better at the lies. It's like a double-edged sword. Anger management class could, in fact, be a trigger. Some see the classes as limiting their control, and in a way it does.
So does anger management really help a person with their issues? Everyone is different, however, if you approach the subject with all seriousness, then you may pick up a tip or two and change for the better. Then again, if you blow off the classes and participate little as possible and you really don't want to change, you won't. Many women and some men take anger management for granted.
Many victims will go back to an abusive relationship because they think the person is seeking help, and then they end up getting hurt worse than before. If you are dating or married to someone who is in anger management classes and you have successfully gotten away from the person, you not go back. Anger management is not a solution, but a beginning. You will have to separate yourself completely in order for the other person to find it in their hearts to change.
Don't be confused on the battered syndrome. Anger is not just a male thing, but women are increasing in their aggression. There is only a small percentage of women who are claimed as batterers however, the statistics claim that the number could be larger because most men don't come forward. Some women can be just as deadly as man.
Anger management is often used as a tool of punishment. If you are guilty of assault and battery then you get some time in anger management. People use this tool as a solution; however, it is not the solution to the problem. The problem is that people can't control themselves and the anger management classes do not cure a person, but helps guide them.
If you are in a relationship and the other person is forced legally to go to the classes, don't feel secure about the relationship.
The person did not choose to go and find help, but they forced. When you force a person to seek help, they will go against their free will, feed the class a bunch of bull, and say what they think others want to hear.
They play the game and some have played the game very well. Those who are in anger management voluntarily is more likely to change than one that was forced. Anger management is a great way to learn techniques on controlling yourself, and it's a place where, you can get better at the lies. It's like a double-edged sword. Anger management class could, in fact, be a trigger. Some see the classes as limiting their control, and in a way it does.
So does anger management really help a person with their issues? Everyone is different, however, if you approach the subject with all seriousness, then you may pick up a tip or two and change for the better. Then again, if you blow off the classes and participate little as possible and you really don't want to change, you won't. Many women and some men take anger management for granted.
Many victims will go back to an abusive relationship because they think the person is seeking help, and then they end up getting hurt worse than before. If you are dating or married to someone who is in anger management classes and you have successfully gotten away from the person, you not go back. Anger management is not a solution, but a beginning. You will have to separate yourself completely in order for the other person to find it in their hearts to change.
Goals Of Anger Management
The goal of anger management is to help you reduce your anger emotions and the control the triggers of your anger and violence. You aren't getting cured; you are being educated on how to control yourself. The fact that people take anger management as a solution is misleading. No one can get anger management and become a different person; you must choose to change. Many people will go to the classes by the order of the courts and act like they saw the light when they are playing a game.
These people have a personality known as passive aggressive. They tend to play mind games and twist things so that you always seem wrong. Do you know a person who has passive aggressive personality? They can be calm, but enraged.
They can speak softly, but in a tone that scares others and is threaten. A passive aggressive person is the worst kind of personalities, because with a passive aggressive person you never know what they will do. You will not know what to say or not to say, what to do or not to do, because anything can set them off. They may be violent by words, by force, or both. Passive aggressive people tend to fool others and convince others that everything is their fault.
Anger management will not cure a person, but it will show them the light, however, they don't have to follow the rules. You can learn to control yourself, or you can listen and block everything out. So how do you know if you need anger management? Passive aggressive people are the worst when it comes to voluntarily going to anger management. Aggressive people look at the physical need to enforce someone, when it comes to passive aggressive people; they tend to try to control everything.
In management classes, they are unable to control. This makes a passive aggressive person even worse and they will eventually blow up from their lack of control. This is when their actions go from scary to frightening. However, if they are truly and deeply trying to handle their aggression, management can work, but these types of people can fool the best. They are almost like pathological liars.
Can anger management help a passive aggressive person? Yes, and no. It depends on how a person would approach the classes. If they want to change, the person will give the class their all, but if they are being forced into the classes, it may not work because they don't want it to. You will find that passive aggressive people have a hard time giving up the control. Anger management is what they need, and they should go to a class that specifies in passive aggressive behavior.
Here you will notice everyone bragging and that's when you know you are passive. If you brag in your speech about your behavior instead of feeling guilty you're passive. Doctors will pick out the passive aggressive behavior in the management classes and they will pay close attention to those because they are unpredictable.
These people have a personality known as passive aggressive. They tend to play mind games and twist things so that you always seem wrong. Do you know a person who has passive aggressive personality? They can be calm, but enraged.
They can speak softly, but in a tone that scares others and is threaten. A passive aggressive person is the worst kind of personalities, because with a passive aggressive person you never know what they will do. You will not know what to say or not to say, what to do or not to do, because anything can set them off. They may be violent by words, by force, or both. Passive aggressive people tend to fool others and convince others that everything is their fault.
Anger management will not cure a person, but it will show them the light, however, they don't have to follow the rules. You can learn to control yourself, or you can listen and block everything out. So how do you know if you need anger management? Passive aggressive people are the worst when it comes to voluntarily going to anger management. Aggressive people look at the physical need to enforce someone, when it comes to passive aggressive people; they tend to try to control everything.
In management classes, they are unable to control. This makes a passive aggressive person even worse and they will eventually blow up from their lack of control. This is when their actions go from scary to frightening. However, if they are truly and deeply trying to handle their aggression, management can work, but these types of people can fool the best. They are almost like pathological liars.
Can anger management help a passive aggressive person? Yes, and no. It depends on how a person would approach the classes. If they want to change, the person will give the class their all, but if they are being forced into the classes, it may not work because they don't want it to. You will find that passive aggressive people have a hard time giving up the control. Anger management is what they need, and they should go to a class that specifies in passive aggressive behavior.
Here you will notice everyone bragging and that's when you know you are passive. If you brag in your speech about your behavior instead of feeling guilty you're passive. Doctors will pick out the passive aggressive behavior in the management classes and they will pay close attention to those because they are unpredictable.
What Is Anger Management?
If you are wandering where you can get help for your anger, you do not have to wander anymore. You can find help with expressing your anger and releasing it naturally when you decide to use anger management. You can find many workshops in your area that deal with this type of problem. It is normal to have these feelings of anger and that is why there are these workshops to help you with your problem.
The natural way to express your anger is to respond aggressively. This is a very natural usual way to respond to threats. It is a powerful emotion and one that you will usually have control of to some point. However there are people that cannot control their anger and that is where the anger management comes into play.
People will use their feelings of emotions to determine how they are feeling. They will naturally express their feelings and this will defiantly include anger. However, some people take their anger too far. When this happens they will hurt people around them without even knowing it. There are words that hurt people just as much as hitting them can. Sometimes when people that have too much anger in them will say nasty and hurtful things to those that they love.
There are also people that will physically hurt the people around them when they are angry. These people must seek anger management help so that they can control the way that they feel and not hurt anyone anymore. It is very important to get his help fast and effectively so that they can live happy lives. The anger management courses are there to help those that are in need and they will take the necessary procedures to make sure that they are helped.
The first step is for the person that is angry to realize they have a problem. They must want to get help for their anger so that it can be addressed in the proper way. When the person with the anger is ready, they can get help for their anger issues so that they are not hurting inside and they are not hurting the people around them. No one wants to be angry all the time and the sooner they realize this, the sooner they can get the help that is so important.
Anger management courses are usually a public service that is free. However sometimes you will see that you may have to pay for the classes. When this is the case, it is important for the person that is angry to find a way to get the help they need. There are certain instances that anger management classes can be free to those that are in desperate need of help.
There is no shame in getting anger management classes. You should not feel conscious about getting help. There is nothing wrong as along as you are willing to admit that you are having a problem and that you need to have the anger management classes to get your life under control.
The natural way to express your anger is to respond aggressively. This is a very natural usual way to respond to threats. It is a powerful emotion and one that you will usually have control of to some point. However there are people that cannot control their anger and that is where the anger management comes into play.
People will use their feelings of emotions to determine how they are feeling. They will naturally express their feelings and this will defiantly include anger. However, some people take their anger too far. When this happens they will hurt people around them without even knowing it. There are words that hurt people just as much as hitting them can. Sometimes when people that have too much anger in them will say nasty and hurtful things to those that they love.
There are also people that will physically hurt the people around them when they are angry. These people must seek anger management help so that they can control the way that they feel and not hurt anyone anymore. It is very important to get his help fast and effectively so that they can live happy lives. The anger management courses are there to help those that are in need and they will take the necessary procedures to make sure that they are helped.
The first step is for the person that is angry to realize they have a problem. They must want to get help for their anger so that it can be addressed in the proper way. When the person with the anger is ready, they can get help for their anger issues so that they are not hurting inside and they are not hurting the people around them. No one wants to be angry all the time and the sooner they realize this, the sooner they can get the help that is so important.
Anger management courses are usually a public service that is free. However sometimes you will see that you may have to pay for the classes. When this is the case, it is important for the person that is angry to find a way to get the help they need. There are certain instances that anger management classes can be free to those that are in desperate need of help.
There is no shame in getting anger management classes. You should not feel conscious about getting help. There is nothing wrong as along as you are willing to admit that you are having a problem and that you need to have the anger management classes to get your life under control.
Anger Management And Your Life
When it comes to anger management you want to reconstruct the person in the way, they think. With anger, management they will try to limit the swearing and tone that can be considered threatening. They will try to knock out the drama. When those who issues get angry, they tend to be over dramatic and irrational.
They became very paranoid as well. When it comes to anger management, they going to try to pin point the triggers and then try to make the person think differently. They want the person to think about their actions what society claims to be acceptable. They will make the person examine what behaviors they project that is acceptable and unacceptable. Two words that people who need anger management say a lot is never and always.
As you know, you should never use these words with seriousness because it will become threatening and demeaning to another. Instead of saying never they would ask the person to rephrase the statement in positive way so that they aren't being so negative. Always can be replaced with sometimes and this adds hope and a positive reflection to the same statement.
In addition, in this time of reflection you should ask yourself when did anger get you anywhere? What has it given to you? Why do you need it? What can you replace your anger with to be more positive? There are probably times when you did something out of anger that made you feel worse. This is because anger solves nothing.
When you get angry you do not stop and think about your actions and people tend to get hurt emotionally and physically. Logically, people think that anger is justifiable; eye for an eye, tooth for a tooth. When you get angry what do you expect? You want to be appreciated; you may want to be heard. When you figure out what exactly it is that you need you are able to control your habits by finding alternatives.
With anger management, you are able to find out what alternatives help you to control your rage and to learn how to positively reflect upon yourself. Everyone has room for improve and reflection is what keeps a person in control and stable. Anger management reconstructs how you see yourself, as well as, others.
You can eliminate the negative things and replace them with a positive statement. Anger management will give you a new path that you may enjoy following, because when you are positive good things happen for you.
When it comes to anger management you want to reconstruct the person in the way, they think. With anger, management they will try to limit the swearing and tone that can be considered threatening. They will try to knock out the drama. When those who issues get angry, they tend to be over dramatic and irrational.
They became very paranoid as well. When it comes to anger management, they going to try to pin point the triggers and then try to make the person think differently. They want the person to think about their actions what society claims to be acceptable. They will make the person examine what behaviors they project that is acceptable and unacceptable. Two words that people who need anger management say a lot is never and always.
As you know, you should never use these words with seriousness because it will become threatening and demeaning to another. Instead of saying never they would ask the person to rephrase the statement in positive way so that they aren't being so negative. Always can be replaced with sometimes and this adds hope and a positive reflection to the same statement.
In addition, in this time of reflection you should ask yourself when did anger get you anywhere? What has it given to you? Why do you need it? What can you replace your anger with to be more positive? There are probably times when you did something out of anger that made you feel worse. This is because anger solves nothing.
When you get angry you do not stop and think about your actions and people tend to get hurt emotionally and physically. Logically, people think that anger is justifiable; eye for an eye, tooth for a tooth. When you get angry what do you expect? You want to be appreciated; you may want to be heard. When you figure out what exactly it is that you need you are able to control your habits by finding alternatives.
With anger management, you are able to find out what alternatives help you to control your rage and to learn how to positively reflect upon yourself. Everyone has room for improve and reflection is what keeps a person in control and stable. Anger management reconstructs how you see yourself, as well as, others.
You can eliminate the negative things and replace them with a positive statement. Anger management will give you a new path that you may enjoy following, because when you are positive good things happen for you.
They became very paranoid as well. When it comes to anger management, they going to try to pin point the triggers and then try to make the person think differently. They want the person to think about their actions what society claims to be acceptable. They will make the person examine what behaviors they project that is acceptable and unacceptable. Two words that people who need anger management say a lot is never and always.
As you know, you should never use these words with seriousness because it will become threatening and demeaning to another. Instead of saying never they would ask the person to rephrase the statement in positive way so that they aren't being so negative. Always can be replaced with sometimes and this adds hope and a positive reflection to the same statement.
In addition, in this time of reflection you should ask yourself when did anger get you anywhere? What has it given to you? Why do you need it? What can you replace your anger with to be more positive? There are probably times when you did something out of anger that made you feel worse. This is because anger solves nothing.
When you get angry you do not stop and think about your actions and people tend to get hurt emotionally and physically. Logically, people think that anger is justifiable; eye for an eye, tooth for a tooth. When you get angry what do you expect? You want to be appreciated; you may want to be heard. When you figure out what exactly it is that you need you are able to control your habits by finding alternatives.
With anger management, you are able to find out what alternatives help you to control your rage and to learn how to positively reflect upon yourself. Everyone has room for improve and reflection is what keeps a person in control and stable. Anger management reconstructs how you see yourself, as well as, others.
You can eliminate the negative things and replace them with a positive statement. Anger management will give you a new path that you may enjoy following, because when you are positive good things happen for you.
When it comes to anger management you want to reconstruct the person in the way, they think. With anger, management they will try to limit the swearing and tone that can be considered threatening. They will try to knock out the drama. When those who issues get angry, they tend to be over dramatic and irrational.
They became very paranoid as well. When it comes to anger management, they going to try to pin point the triggers and then try to make the person think differently. They want the person to think about their actions what society claims to be acceptable. They will make the person examine what behaviors they project that is acceptable and unacceptable. Two words that people who need anger management say a lot is never and always.
As you know, you should never use these words with seriousness because it will become threatening and demeaning to another. Instead of saying never they would ask the person to rephrase the statement in positive way so that they aren't being so negative. Always can be replaced with sometimes and this adds hope and a positive reflection to the same statement.
In addition, in this time of reflection you should ask yourself when did anger get you anywhere? What has it given to you? Why do you need it? What can you replace your anger with to be more positive? There are probably times when you did something out of anger that made you feel worse. This is because anger solves nothing.
When you get angry you do not stop and think about your actions and people tend to get hurt emotionally and physically. Logically, people think that anger is justifiable; eye for an eye, tooth for a tooth. When you get angry what do you expect? You want to be appreciated; you may want to be heard. When you figure out what exactly it is that you need you are able to control your habits by finding alternatives.
With anger management, you are able to find out what alternatives help you to control your rage and to learn how to positively reflect upon yourself. Everyone has room for improve and reflection is what keeps a person in control and stable. Anger management reconstructs how you see yourself, as well as, others.
You can eliminate the negative things and replace them with a positive statement. Anger management will give you a new path that you may enjoy following, because when you are positive good things happen for you.
Sunday, March 30, 2008
Self Help Anger Management
It is not unusual for people to have anxiety. There are many that are dealing with the problems of anger and frustration. Among these people, some of them do not want to get help from a profession for their problems. They may want to take on this problem by themselves and get the help that they need for it with some tips they do research on.
If you do not face your anger, you may find that you get yourself further and further into more problems. You have to find a way to figure out what you can do to self treat your anger. Self-help anger management is going to be up to you. You have to be willing to get the help that you are in need of and not be afraid to ask for it.
You can go online and find many different places that will help you with your self help anger management. You will be able to find many sites that will link you to forums and workshops on how to eliminate and control the anger that you do have. These sites are a great help to anyone that is serious about finding out how they can take care of their anger issues without facing the public for the help they need.
There are also many great self help anger management books that you can turn to for help. If you are looking for a guide to get you through your rough spots in life, you will find that there are manuals out there to teach you the techniques that you need to satisfy your anger problems. You can get help by reading up on the different approaches that people are taking to take back their life.
You can also use the Internet for talking and meeting other people that are dealing with their own anger management. This is a form of self-help anger management this will allow you to meet the people that can help you through a tough time. They can give you advice and tips that they have used with their own anger management.
With all the resources that are available, you will be able to get help and find out what you can do on your own for anger. You do not have to go on feeling angry and helpless all the time. You can get great help for yourself without ever having to tell anyone that you know. You can secretly find help and support so that you can get back the life that you had and need.
If you do not face your anger, you may find that you get yourself further and further into more problems. You have to find a way to figure out what you can do to self treat your anger. Self-help anger management is going to be up to you. You have to be willing to get the help that you are in need of and not be afraid to ask for it.
You can go online and find many different places that will help you with your self help anger management. You will be able to find many sites that will link you to forums and workshops on how to eliminate and control the anger that you do have. These sites are a great help to anyone that is serious about finding out how they can take care of their anger issues without facing the public for the help they need.
There are also many great self help anger management books that you can turn to for help. If you are looking for a guide to get you through your rough spots in life, you will find that there are manuals out there to teach you the techniques that you need to satisfy your anger problems. You can get help by reading up on the different approaches that people are taking to take back their life.
You can also use the Internet for talking and meeting other people that are dealing with their own anger management. This is a form of self-help anger management this will allow you to meet the people that can help you through a tough time. They can give you advice and tips that they have used with their own anger management.
With all the resources that are available, you will be able to get help and find out what you can do on your own for anger. You do not have to go on feeling angry and helpless all the time. You can get great help for yourself without ever having to tell anyone that you know. You can secretly find help and support so that you can get back the life that you had and need.
Anger Management Techniques
Anger is one of the most common and destructive emotions and it afflicts our mind almost every day. We need to empower ourselves with anger management techniques so as to solve our problem of anger. Anger management techniques are easy to apply especially when anger gets over us and our physical wellbeing. It is important to know anger management techniques to help us cope with situations everyday.
What is anger? Anger is a natural human emotion and it is an adaptive nature which empowers us to "ward off" any attacks or threats to our well being.
However, it sometimes can cause us to focus on the bad qualities of an animate or inanimate object, make it unattractive and increase our desires to perform negative actions on it. But the truth is, anger is not a problem but the mismanagement of anger. Mismanaged anger and rage cause us to face conflicts and difficulties in our personal and professional relationships. Thus, we must know anger management techniques in order to cope better with it.
Anger management techniques are simple to apply but we must first recognize the anger within our mind and acknowledge that it is harmful to both our selves and others. The idea of being tolerant and patient is central in anger management techniques because it is when we lose our tolerance and patience that we begin to feel angry.
In addition, anger management techniques are really just practical methods that can be applied in our daily lives to help us reduce our anger and finally to prevent it from arising at all. They can help us because excessive anger can cause health problems, family issues, drug or alcohol abuse, financial despair, extreme fear or stress, and spiritual void. Domestic abuse, road rage, workplace violence, divorce, and addiction are just a few examples of what happens when anger is mismanaged.
To get started with applying anger management techniques, you need to admit that your anger is out-of-control is essential to tackling the problem of anger. This requires honesty, courage, and tremendous inner strength. And also requires help from others.
When in a situation that needs you to apply anger management techniques, be consciously determined to be calm and communicate and express slowly what you are feeling. Look at the positive side and try to look at the situation from another point of view. Try to relax at the same time and just think about something good to distract yourself from the overwhelming feeling of anger. In addition, you can regulate your breathing to become slow and relaxed to allow you to think and react better in the situation.
Remember that anger management techniques help you to control your anger to the best of your physical well being, social functioning and relationships! Uncontrolled anger only results in added troubles to your life and controlling your anger is a choice you can make! It is no disgrace to admit we have a problem and seek outside help. Click Here for more help on regaining control of anger management.
What is anger? Anger is a natural human emotion and it is an adaptive nature which empowers us to "ward off" any attacks or threats to our well being.
However, it sometimes can cause us to focus on the bad qualities of an animate or inanimate object, make it unattractive and increase our desires to perform negative actions on it. But the truth is, anger is not a problem but the mismanagement of anger. Mismanaged anger and rage cause us to face conflicts and difficulties in our personal and professional relationships. Thus, we must know anger management techniques in order to cope better with it.
Anger management techniques are simple to apply but we must first recognize the anger within our mind and acknowledge that it is harmful to both our selves and others. The idea of being tolerant and patient is central in anger management techniques because it is when we lose our tolerance and patience that we begin to feel angry.
In addition, anger management techniques are really just practical methods that can be applied in our daily lives to help us reduce our anger and finally to prevent it from arising at all. They can help us because excessive anger can cause health problems, family issues, drug or alcohol abuse, financial despair, extreme fear or stress, and spiritual void. Domestic abuse, road rage, workplace violence, divorce, and addiction are just a few examples of what happens when anger is mismanaged.
To get started with applying anger management techniques, you need to admit that your anger is out-of-control is essential to tackling the problem of anger. This requires honesty, courage, and tremendous inner strength. And also requires help from others.
When in a situation that needs you to apply anger management techniques, be consciously determined to be calm and communicate and express slowly what you are feeling. Look at the positive side and try to look at the situation from another point of view. Try to relax at the same time and just think about something good to distract yourself from the overwhelming feeling of anger. In addition, you can regulate your breathing to become slow and relaxed to allow you to think and react better in the situation.
Remember that anger management techniques help you to control your anger to the best of your physical well being, social functioning and relationships! Uncontrolled anger only results in added troubles to your life and controlling your anger is a choice you can make! It is no disgrace to admit we have a problem and seek outside help. Click Here for more help on regaining control of anger management.
What is Positive Thinking?
What is positive thinking exactly? When you talk about someone with a positive mindset, you probably imagine this person to live a life of denial, covering up their true feelings and pretending that everything is fine even when everything appears to be doomed.
The truth is, positive thinking has nothing to do with denying your emotions or pretending that everything is great. It's about learning to adjust the way you think and feel about the events and experiences of your life, rather than letting the events which happen to you determine your mood.
Undoubtedly, it is crucial for you to understand what is positive thinking exactly if you wish to be in control of your emotions and success.
I believe many people would argue that it is difficult to stay positive always. As we encounter various setbacks in life, it's totally understandable that it's normal to feel down and even self-pitying. However, by being negative to all that happens to you is definitely not going to help things at all.
As Zig Ziglar said, 'It's not what happens to you that determine how far you will go in life; it is how you handle what happens to you.'
Hence, if you want positive things to happen to you, you've simply got to adopt a positive mindset all the time.
There is a simple rule that you should apply to your thinking in everything you do.
Think Positively and you will get positive results.
Think Negatively and you will get negative results.
There are bound to be many negative people whom you will meet in life. These people will forever be worrying about almost every single thing they can think of. Before a test, they will worry that it's going to be hard. When doing projects, they will worry about the deadline. They spend a huge amount of time worrying instead of sitting down and think of solutions to their problems.
Chances are, these people will fail to accomplish big things in life. This is because they spend their whole life worrying instead of working towards their goals. Whenever they face a little setback, they are extremely pessimistic and get discourage and end up quitting.
On the other hand, people who understand what is positive thinking remains optimistic even when faced with huge obstacles. This does not mean that they choose to ignore the problems. Rather, they face it with optimism and they understand that worrying is not going to help. Instead, they choose to focus their time on generating ideas to overcome any obstacles they face and work extremely hard towards their goals.
Such positive thinking individuals are also often well-liked by their peers. Ask yourself honestly, would you rather hang out with people who are perpetually complaining and worrying or would you want to hang out with people who are full of energy and optimism. Positive people are charismatic and people love to be friends with the. So be that person with the positive mindset too!
In conclusion, it's without a doubt that most, if not all successful people are extremely positive in their mindset. So now that you've understood what is positive thinking exactly, be sure to change your mindset and make a positive difference in both your own and others lives. Click here to learn more about positive thinking.
The truth is, positive thinking has nothing to do with denying your emotions or pretending that everything is great. It's about learning to adjust the way you think and feel about the events and experiences of your life, rather than letting the events which happen to you determine your mood.
Undoubtedly, it is crucial for you to understand what is positive thinking exactly if you wish to be in control of your emotions and success.
I believe many people would argue that it is difficult to stay positive always. As we encounter various setbacks in life, it's totally understandable that it's normal to feel down and even self-pitying. However, by being negative to all that happens to you is definitely not going to help things at all.
As Zig Ziglar said, 'It's not what happens to you that determine how far you will go in life; it is how you handle what happens to you.'
Hence, if you want positive things to happen to you, you've simply got to adopt a positive mindset all the time.
There is a simple rule that you should apply to your thinking in everything you do.
Think Positively and you will get positive results.
Think Negatively and you will get negative results.
There are bound to be many negative people whom you will meet in life. These people will forever be worrying about almost every single thing they can think of. Before a test, they will worry that it's going to be hard. When doing projects, they will worry about the deadline. They spend a huge amount of time worrying instead of sitting down and think of solutions to their problems.
Chances are, these people will fail to accomplish big things in life. This is because they spend their whole life worrying instead of working towards their goals. Whenever they face a little setback, they are extremely pessimistic and get discourage and end up quitting.
On the other hand, people who understand what is positive thinking remains optimistic even when faced with huge obstacles. This does not mean that they choose to ignore the problems. Rather, they face it with optimism and they understand that worrying is not going to help. Instead, they choose to focus their time on generating ideas to overcome any obstacles they face and work extremely hard towards their goals.
Such positive thinking individuals are also often well-liked by their peers. Ask yourself honestly, would you rather hang out with people who are perpetually complaining and worrying or would you want to hang out with people who are full of energy and optimism. Positive people are charismatic and people love to be friends with the. So be that person with the positive mindset too!
In conclusion, it's without a doubt that most, if not all successful people are extremely positive in their mindset. So now that you've understood what is positive thinking exactly, be sure to change your mindset and make a positive difference in both your own and others lives. Click here to learn more about positive thinking.
Art of Positive Thinking: How to Overcome Our Thought Pollutions
Thought pollutions results from the unskillful use of emotions, the most basic element of thought energy. Often when we feel down or sick, it is because we are picking up these thought pollutions, which we can absorb very easily. But we can also learn quite simply how to remove them from our minds and bodies and to extract the positive thought energies. Learning how to overcome our thought pollutions is one of the ways towards mastering the art of positive thinking.
Art of Positive Thinking #1: Overcoming Greed
Greed is an unskillful emotion that seeks to accumulate anything in order to feel safe and secure. Greed creates ill health and problems with insecurity, money and relationships. Whenever greed creeps into you, start running the images of the wind or sea and focus on one of these sounds and direct these sounds towards eroding your greed and developing an understanding that all things come to fruition in their own time.
Art of Positive Thinking #2: Overcoming Anger
Anger comes into being when a person is overwhelmed by the world and feels powerless to change it. People influenced by anger seek perfection in all things and see themselves as leaders and inspirers of other people. To transform anger, first think of how you can be of service to your fellow human beings. Focus upon your thought energy to bring you a greater experience of love and spirituality in your daily life.
Art of Positive Thinking #3: Overcoming Arrogance
Arrogance is a lack of confidence. Arrogance is being unsure of what to do, so it creates a defense system of emotions. People influenced by arrogance believe that things don't last and that they can rely only upon themselves. Whenever you experience an emotion of arrogance, sit quietly and ask yourself what's the real value of your achievements. As you gain insights, cultivate them with self-love so that you will be able to recognize opportunities for positive change.
Art of Positive Thinking #4: Overcoming Selfishness
Selfishness comes about when an individual has no self-awareness, either physically or emotionally. This lack of self-awareness leads to loneliness, which in turn affects the chemistry of the brain and the body's limbic system, both of which are intimately connected to our emotions. The next time you experience the emotion of selfishness, close your eyes and visualize what's it is like to be free from selfishness and how others will be able to benefit from your kind generosity instead.
So now that you've understood the role and importance of your emotions and the thought pollutions that can impede your development of skilful thought, it is time to start mastering the art of positive thinking by overcoming your thought pollutions. Click here to learn more about positive thinking.
Art of Positive Thinking #1: Overcoming Greed
Greed is an unskillful emotion that seeks to accumulate anything in order to feel safe and secure. Greed creates ill health and problems with insecurity, money and relationships. Whenever greed creeps into you, start running the images of the wind or sea and focus on one of these sounds and direct these sounds towards eroding your greed and developing an understanding that all things come to fruition in their own time.
Art of Positive Thinking #2: Overcoming Anger
Anger comes into being when a person is overwhelmed by the world and feels powerless to change it. People influenced by anger seek perfection in all things and see themselves as leaders and inspirers of other people. To transform anger, first think of how you can be of service to your fellow human beings. Focus upon your thought energy to bring you a greater experience of love and spirituality in your daily life.
Art of Positive Thinking #3: Overcoming Arrogance
Arrogance is a lack of confidence. Arrogance is being unsure of what to do, so it creates a defense system of emotions. People influenced by arrogance believe that things don't last and that they can rely only upon themselves. Whenever you experience an emotion of arrogance, sit quietly and ask yourself what's the real value of your achievements. As you gain insights, cultivate them with self-love so that you will be able to recognize opportunities for positive change.
Art of Positive Thinking #4: Overcoming Selfishness
Selfishness comes about when an individual has no self-awareness, either physically or emotionally. This lack of self-awareness leads to loneliness, which in turn affects the chemistry of the brain and the body's limbic system, both of which are intimately connected to our emotions. The next time you experience the emotion of selfishness, close your eyes and visualize what's it is like to be free from selfishness and how others will be able to benefit from your kind generosity instead.
So now that you've understood the role and importance of your emotions and the thought pollutions that can impede your development of skilful thought, it is time to start mastering the art of positive thinking by overcoming your thought pollutions. Click here to learn more about positive thinking.
Causes of Fear of Public Speaking
There are many causes of fear of public speaking. However, they all revolve around the primary reason that people have the fear and worry of looking foolish in front of the people whom they are speaking in front of. It's the fear that others may judge and perceive them as being stupid and dumb because of what they say that leads to causes of fear of public speaking.
In addition, people fear that during their public speaking stint that they might forget the content of their speech which might reflect very poorly of them in terms of their performance.
Generally, the fear of speaking in public is caused by two things. Firstly, it is our beliefs of ourselves. We always think negatively of ourselves where we say things like, "I'm not good enough" or "I am bound to say and appear stupid in front of people" when we are not confident of ourselves and when we expect mistakes and failures to occur.
There is no doubt that mistakes and failures are prone to occur especially in situations such as speaking in public where many factors are uncontrollable such as the audience's reaction to your speech, the environment, technical difficulties that may occur. All these possible factors may influence your performance and may if you attribute such mistakes and failures internally, you are going to say, "I'm lousy" at the end of the day.
The second main cause of the fear of public speaking is actually our emotions. We rarely attribute our fears to our emotions but however, emotions occur automatically and even subconsciously when stimuli is present. And often, these stimuli produce a certain emotion. For instance, there's a possibility that when you see a huge group of people you feel intimidated and this produce feelings of uncertainty and fear of being judged, evaluated, or rejected by this group of people. This hinders your performance and prevents you from developing your public speaking skills to its fullest potential.
In order for you to ever gain confidence in public speaking, it is important that you eliminate the causes of fear of public speaking by eliminating beliefs that are negative and de-conditioning the environmental stimuli which cause you to feel jittery at public speaking events. Learn to condition yourself using rewards and punishers and you'd realize that the fear of public speaking will literally disappear over time and that your self-confidence will be boosted by your increased faith in yourself and your performance.
Furthermore, there are many tips available on training yourself up to be a public speaker. Always remember that public speaking is a skill that can be taught and trained, and with practice, the causes of fear of public speaking will gradually fade away and causing a transformation in you. Click here for more help on overcoming the fear of public speaking.
In addition, people fear that during their public speaking stint that they might forget the content of their speech which might reflect very poorly of them in terms of their performance.
Generally, the fear of speaking in public is caused by two things. Firstly, it is our beliefs of ourselves. We always think negatively of ourselves where we say things like, "I'm not good enough" or "I am bound to say and appear stupid in front of people" when we are not confident of ourselves and when we expect mistakes and failures to occur.
There is no doubt that mistakes and failures are prone to occur especially in situations such as speaking in public where many factors are uncontrollable such as the audience's reaction to your speech, the environment, technical difficulties that may occur. All these possible factors may influence your performance and may if you attribute such mistakes and failures internally, you are going to say, "I'm lousy" at the end of the day.
The second main cause of the fear of public speaking is actually our emotions. We rarely attribute our fears to our emotions but however, emotions occur automatically and even subconsciously when stimuli is present. And often, these stimuli produce a certain emotion. For instance, there's a possibility that when you see a huge group of people you feel intimidated and this produce feelings of uncertainty and fear of being judged, evaluated, or rejected by this group of people. This hinders your performance and prevents you from developing your public speaking skills to its fullest potential.
In order for you to ever gain confidence in public speaking, it is important that you eliminate the causes of fear of public speaking by eliminating beliefs that are negative and de-conditioning the environmental stimuli which cause you to feel jittery at public speaking events. Learn to condition yourself using rewards and punishers and you'd realize that the fear of public speaking will literally disappear over time and that your self-confidence will be boosted by your increased faith in yourself and your performance.
Furthermore, there are many tips available on training yourself up to be a public speaker. Always remember that public speaking is a skill that can be taught and trained, and with practice, the causes of fear of public speaking will gradually fade away and causing a transformation in you. Click here for more help on overcoming the fear of public speaking.
Public Speaking: What To Say And What Not To Say When Giving A Speech
Are you interested in learning what it takes to become a public speaker? On the other hand, would you just like to learn how to communicate better with your family and friends when you talk to them? Either way you must learn what is appropriate and what is not appropriate when it comes to speaking.
We all want to make sure that we are not only getting the target audience to listen to us, but we also want to make sure that what we are saying is getting through.
Here is how to grab the attention of most anyone you are speaking to, regardless if you are speaking to an audience of people or just on a one to one basis: Just be honest!
Nothing is more important to ethical speaking than honesty. Being straight-forward is vital. When it comes to speaking with people there is an unspoken assumption that your words are to be trusted and that you are being truthful.
Although this indeed is an assumption, it is one of the few assumptions that is necessary. Without it there is no basis for communication, no reason for one person to believe what another person is saying. And once that bond between speaker and listener is broken, it can never be mended.
On the other hand, please keep in mind that there are certain situations where speaking the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth, is impossible or inadvisable. In any case where “laying it all out” would be tactless or imprudent then some adjustments of the speech will have to be made.
For example, consider a presidential press secretary who denies the facts about war plans or war movements due to national security. Or how about when a father is giving her young daughter an explanation of why exactly her mommy and him are not together anymore. Very few people would find this kind of “non-truth telling” unethical. It just can't be helped.
Of course deciding on what not to say out of care can only be decided by you and with having carefully assessed the situation about the “speech” that you are about to give to an individual or a group. Do not create a lie to hurt anyone. Do not create a lie to hide from your wrongdoings. Rather, use your best judgment call so as not to hurt others when speaking.
We all want to make sure that we are not only getting the target audience to listen to us, but we also want to make sure that what we are saying is getting through.
Here is how to grab the attention of most anyone you are speaking to, regardless if you are speaking to an audience of people or just on a one to one basis: Just be honest!
Nothing is more important to ethical speaking than honesty. Being straight-forward is vital. When it comes to speaking with people there is an unspoken assumption that your words are to be trusted and that you are being truthful.
Although this indeed is an assumption, it is one of the few assumptions that is necessary. Without it there is no basis for communication, no reason for one person to believe what another person is saying. And once that bond between speaker and listener is broken, it can never be mended.
On the other hand, please keep in mind that there are certain situations where speaking the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth, is impossible or inadvisable. In any case where “laying it all out” would be tactless or imprudent then some adjustments of the speech will have to be made.
For example, consider a presidential press secretary who denies the facts about war plans or war movements due to national security. Or how about when a father is giving her young daughter an explanation of why exactly her mommy and him are not together anymore. Very few people would find this kind of “non-truth telling” unethical. It just can't be helped.
Of course deciding on what not to say out of care can only be decided by you and with having carefully assessed the situation about the “speech” that you are about to give to an individual or a group. Do not create a lie to hurt anyone. Do not create a lie to hide from your wrongdoings. Rather, use your best judgment call so as not to hurt others when speaking.
Causes of Fear of Public Speaking
There are many causes of fear of public speaking. However, they all revolve around the primary reason that people have the fear and worry of looking foolish in front of the people whom they are speaking in front of. It's the fear that others may judge and perceive them as being stupid and dumb because of what they say that leads to causes of fear of public speaking.
In addition, people fear that during their public speaking stint that they might forget the content of their speech which might reflect very poorly of them in terms of their performance.
Generally, the fear of speaking in public is caused by two things. Firstly, it is our beliefs of ourselves. We always think negatively of ourselves where we say things like, "I'm not good enough" or "I am bound to say and appear stupid in front of people" when we are not confident of ourselves and when we expect mistakes and failures to occur.
There is no doubt that mistakes and failures are prone to occur especially in situations such as speaking in public where many factors are uncontrollable such as the audience's reaction to your speech, the environment, technical difficulties that may occur. All these possible factors may influence your performance and may if you attribute such mistakes and failures internally, you are going to say, "I'm lousy" at the end of the day.
The second main cause of the fear of public speaking is actually our emotions. We rarely attribute our fears to our emotions but however, emotions occur automatically and even subconsciously when stimuli is present. And often, these stimuli produce a certain emotion. For instance, there's a possibility that when you see a huge group of people you feel intimidated and this produce feelings of uncertainty and fear of being judged, evaluated, or rejected by this group of people. This hinders your performance and prevents you from developing your public speaking skills to its fullest potential.
In order for you to ever gain confidence in public speaking, it is important that you eliminate the causes of fear of public speaking by eliminating beliefs that are negative and de-conditioning the environmental stimuli which cause you to feel jittery at public speaking events. Learn to condition yourself using rewards and punishers and you'd realize that the fear of public speaking will literally disappear over time and that your self-confidence will be boosted by your increased faith in yourself and your performance.
Furthermore, there are many tips available on training yourself up to be a public speaker. Always remember that public speaking is a skill that can be taught and trained, and with practice, the causes of fear of public speaking will gradually fade away and causing a transformation in you. Click here for more help on overcoming the fear of public speaking.
In addition, people fear that during their public speaking stint that they might forget the content of their speech which might reflect very poorly of them in terms of their performance.
Generally, the fear of speaking in public is caused by two things. Firstly, it is our beliefs of ourselves. We always think negatively of ourselves where we say things like, "I'm not good enough" or "I am bound to say and appear stupid in front of people" when we are not confident of ourselves and when we expect mistakes and failures to occur.
There is no doubt that mistakes and failures are prone to occur especially in situations such as speaking in public where many factors are uncontrollable such as the audience's reaction to your speech, the environment, technical difficulties that may occur. All these possible factors may influence your performance and may if you attribute such mistakes and failures internally, you are going to say, "I'm lousy" at the end of the day.
The second main cause of the fear of public speaking is actually our emotions. We rarely attribute our fears to our emotions but however, emotions occur automatically and even subconsciously when stimuli is present. And often, these stimuli produce a certain emotion. For instance, there's a possibility that when you see a huge group of people you feel intimidated and this produce feelings of uncertainty and fear of being judged, evaluated, or rejected by this group of people. This hinders your performance and prevents you from developing your public speaking skills to its fullest potential.
In order for you to ever gain confidence in public speaking, it is important that you eliminate the causes of fear of public speaking by eliminating beliefs that are negative and de-conditioning the environmental stimuli which cause you to feel jittery at public speaking events. Learn to condition yourself using rewards and punishers and you'd realize that the fear of public speaking will literally disappear over time and that your self-confidence will be boosted by your increased faith in yourself and your performance.
Furthermore, there are many tips available on training yourself up to be a public speaker. Always remember that public speaking is a skill that can be taught and trained, and with practice, the causes of fear of public speaking will gradually fade away and causing a transformation in you. Click here for more help on overcoming the fear of public speaking.
Fail-Proof Resolutions
Every year, millions of people start to think about ways to make life better, and resolve to do something about it. Unfortunately most of them set themselves up for failure before they even begin, because they don't build a proper foundation from which to build.
The most common resolutions are things like 'lose weight', or 'stop smoking', or 'start a new business'. Sometimes the resolution will be something like 'make new friends', or 'win the ______ award', or 'spend more time with family'.
In short, resolutions are decisions to reach specific goals. Here are some ideas to keep in mind to insure the success of your resolutions.
1. Positive Expectation - People who succeed with resolutions are those who expect to succeed. Those who expect to fail won't even make the effort to move forward.
One of the best ways to build positive expectation is to find evidence that others have succeeded in what you're wanting to accomplish. This is one reason the "Chicken Soup for the Soul" books have become so popular. They contain hundreds of short stories of people succeeding in all areas of life.
Another excellent means of building positive expectation is to simply imagine yourself succeeding. Scientific studies have proven that the inner mind cannot tell the difference between a real event and one that is vividly imagined.
If you want to have the feeling that you've succeeded in something before, all you have to do is to vividly imagine succeeding. Then, whenever you think about that goal, your inner mind will recall the vivid experience of succeeding, and you'll have positive expectation of future success.
2. Have A Clear Plan For Achievement - If you wanted to take a trip to a place you've never been, would you just jump in the car and guess your way there? Or would you take a minute to look at a map to see which roads will get you to your destination?
Having a map to follow will always get you to your destination quicker than simply guessing which way to go at each turn in the road. The same is true when pursuing any goal.
Maps are made by people who have been there. Map-makers are common in all walks of life. There are map-makers who have succeeded in business and write books to show others the way. There are map-makers who have succeeded in human relationships who give seminars to help others avoid the pitfalls that await the unwary.
Before you begin to pursue your resolutions, find a map and follow it.
3. Reward Yourself For Succeeding - Few people will work hard when they don't see a payoff at the end, and with a lot of resolutions, the payoff isn't as clear as it should be. For instance, losing weight is about a lot more than seeing a lower number on the scale. Starting your own business is about a lot more than just getting away from a boss.
In all cases, you will succeed easier if you can see clear and definite rewards for your efforts. And when you're working for a larger goal, you sometimes need small rewards for each checkpoint along the way.
To be effective, rewards must be something you truly want, such as a vacation, or a new outfit, or even a hot fudge sundae. Just keep your rewards in proportion to the successes achieved, and you will be fine.
4. Get Help When You Need It - Most of us need a little help along the way to success. This help could be a mentor who knows what to do to reach the goal, or it could be a tool that will amplify your efforts and give you an advantage.
There are many sources of help available to you that will help you reach your goals. I have created a page of resources that can help you reach any goal you may have. You will find the current list of resources at http://www.KeysToPower.com/Links.html.
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The most common resolutions are things like 'lose weight', or 'stop smoking', or 'start a new business'. Sometimes the resolution will be something like 'make new friends', or 'win the ______ award', or 'spend more time with family'.
In short, resolutions are decisions to reach specific goals. Here are some ideas to keep in mind to insure the success of your resolutions.
1. Positive Expectation - People who succeed with resolutions are those who expect to succeed. Those who expect to fail won't even make the effort to move forward.
One of the best ways to build positive expectation is to find evidence that others have succeeded in what you're wanting to accomplish. This is one reason the "Chicken Soup for the Soul" books have become so popular. They contain hundreds of short stories of people succeeding in all areas of life.
Another excellent means of building positive expectation is to simply imagine yourself succeeding. Scientific studies have proven that the inner mind cannot tell the difference between a real event and one that is vividly imagined.
If you want to have the feeling that you've succeeded in something before, all you have to do is to vividly imagine succeeding. Then, whenever you think about that goal, your inner mind will recall the vivid experience of succeeding, and you'll have positive expectation of future success.
2. Have A Clear Plan For Achievement - If you wanted to take a trip to a place you've never been, would you just jump in the car and guess your way there? Or would you take a minute to look at a map to see which roads will get you to your destination?
Having a map to follow will always get you to your destination quicker than simply guessing which way to go at each turn in the road. The same is true when pursuing any goal.
Maps are made by people who have been there. Map-makers are common in all walks of life. There are map-makers who have succeeded in business and write books to show others the way. There are map-makers who have succeeded in human relationships who give seminars to help others avoid the pitfalls that await the unwary.
Before you begin to pursue your resolutions, find a map and follow it.
3. Reward Yourself For Succeeding - Few people will work hard when they don't see a payoff at the end, and with a lot of resolutions, the payoff isn't as clear as it should be. For instance, losing weight is about a lot more than seeing a lower number on the scale. Starting your own business is about a lot more than just getting away from a boss.
In all cases, you will succeed easier if you can see clear and definite rewards for your efforts. And when you're working for a larger goal, you sometimes need small rewards for each checkpoint along the way.
To be effective, rewards must be something you truly want, such as a vacation, or a new outfit, or even a hot fudge sundae. Just keep your rewards in proportion to the successes achieved, and you will be fine.
4. Get Help When You Need It - Most of us need a little help along the way to success. This help could be a mentor who knows what to do to reach the goal, or it could be a tool that will amplify your efforts and give you an advantage.
There are many sources of help available to you that will help you reach your goals. I have created a page of resources that can help you reach any goal you may have. You will find the current list of resources at http://www.KeysToPower.com/Links.html.
Alan Tutt is the creator of the world-famous Keys To Power Mastery System available at http://www.KeysToPower.com. Learn how to gain absolute control over yourself and your world with the power of your mind and spirit. Free mini-course available.
Setting Power Goals
Every so often, every successful person sits down to evaluate the direction his/her life is taking and decide where they want their life to go next.
We all know how important it is to have goals. We hear from every expert on self-improvement and success that those with clearly defined goals achieve at least 7 times more than those without goals.
If you're like me, you've followed along with one of these success speakers to outline a series of goals that will motivate you to work hard and become greater than you've ever been in your life.
But have those goals truly motivated you? Did you reach the pinnacle of success? Did you make that million dollars, get that fancy sports car, or marry the fashion model of your dreams? Or if you were more realistic, did you get that raise, improve your current relationship, or attain a measure of self-confidence?
There's certainly nothing wrong with setting goals. In fact I agree with the motivational speakers in that goals are imperative if you are truly committed to creating the kind of life you want.
But that's the real secret. What kind of life do YOU want?
We've been programmed since birth that everyone wants money, good health, and the ultimate relationship. Guys are programmed to want the fancy sports cars and the beautiful women. Women are programmed to want a happy household and a successful career at the same time.
What I'd like to do now is to give you some questions to ask yourself to find out what you really want out of life so you can set your own goals, not someone else's.
The first set of questions to ask yourself are: What in your life irritates you? What makes you feel less than satisfied? What would you like to get rid of if you could?
Although most of us have been programmed to believe that certain things will make us happy, few of us have been programmed to believe that other things will make us unhappy. If you know what makes you unhappy, you have a good idea of what will really make you happy.
Now, ask yourself these questions: How would you like to spend your free time? If you were given a full month to do anything you'd like to do, where would you go? If you were told that you would die in six months, what would you do with the time you had left to live?
That last question especially gets to the heart of the matter. Most people would very quickly dismiss all of the programming society has fed them if they thought they were going to die in six months.
Now, using that concept for just another moment, is there anything you'd like to accomplish to leave your mark on the world before you go?
This question starts to activate a part of your brain that normally stays quiet, thinking that there will always be time enough to do the important things in life. We all like to think so, but no-one really knows for sure.
Is there something that you could do to make this world a better place? Are there people that you could help in some way? Is there something you could do that would be remembered a hundred years from now?
Don't worry if the answer to that last question is 'no'. Not everyone is destined for greatness, and maybe you just aren't cut out to be a legend. There's no shame in just being a cog in the machine.
But if you think that there may be something you could do that would impact the world greatly, don't let modesty stand in your way either!
Somewhere in this line of questioning, most people tend to find their life's purpose. That thing that they were meant to do while on this Earth. Their mission in life. The one goal beyond all other goals that will drive them onward through thick and thin, through rain and snow and sleet, over mountains and oceans, until they overcome their greatest fears and succeed where all others have failed.
Rarely does anyone ask themselves these questions and come up with a goal of making a million dollars or marrying the newest supermodel.
But maybe you've found a goal to become the most successful salesperson in your company, a record that will stand for years before anyone else equals your achievements.
Maybe you've found a goal to teach kids to read.
Maybe you've found a goal to become a stellar example of how to demonstrate love in everyday situations.
Maybe you've found a goal to write a book that will teach the world an important lesson that no-one seems to have learned except you.
And maybe you've found a goal to help someone else achieve the success that you know they are capable of.
Whatever central goal you've found for yourself, here are some questions that will help you define what to do next.
Although you may need to research this question, what steps do you need to follow to reach your primary goal?
No-one really knows all the steps required to reach a particular goal, especially if it's one that no-one has reached before, but try to gather whatever information is readily available. Don't spend all your time looking for information, though. You have work to do, so get to it as soon as you have a good idea of where to get started.
Now that you know where you eventually want to end up in life, you may want to take some time to evaluate how the other projects in your life fit into the overall scheme of things.
Here's an example. I recently reviewed my own goals, mostly because I've found myself going in too many directions at once. One of my project, working with the website for my church, stood out as being inconsistent with my primary goal, which is to refine the Keys To Power system and make it available to as many people as possible.
I also noticed that what I thought was a goal of mine (to build a net worth of $1 million within the next year), wasn't so important to me. Actually, I'd be quite content with only $100,000.
And the importance of my photography business also found itself going out the window. It's fun, and I won't avoid it completely, but I really want to spend my time promoting the Keys To Power system to the world.
You may also find that some of your minor goals don't fit anymore with your primary goal.
But just as no man is an island, no goal is truly sufficient unto itself. Your primary goal needs partners to flourish.
What besides this primary goal do you need to be happy? Bring back that list of things that currently make you unhappy. What can you do to change them? Is there a way you can change them and make progress towards your primary goal at the same time?
Also bring back that list of things you'd like to spend your time doing. What can you fit into your schedule as you work towards your primary goal? Schools have periodic recess periods for a reason. No-one can work well without short breaks to have fun. Make sure to allow yourself to have some fun along the way!
There's a lot more that can be said about setting goals and balancing them with playtime. But I've said enough for one article. Go ahead, take a break and have some fun.
Then get to work, you have something important to accomplish!
Alan Tutt is the creator of the world-famous Keys To Power system and operates the PowerKeys Publishing network of websites. Find many insightful books that help you get maximum results from minimum effort, including the FREE 12 lesson course "Effortless Power" at http://www.PowerKeysPub.com.
We all know how important it is to have goals. We hear from every expert on self-improvement and success that those with clearly defined goals achieve at least 7 times more than those without goals.
If you're like me, you've followed along with one of these success speakers to outline a series of goals that will motivate you to work hard and become greater than you've ever been in your life.
But have those goals truly motivated you? Did you reach the pinnacle of success? Did you make that million dollars, get that fancy sports car, or marry the fashion model of your dreams? Or if you were more realistic, did you get that raise, improve your current relationship, or attain a measure of self-confidence?
There's certainly nothing wrong with setting goals. In fact I agree with the motivational speakers in that goals are imperative if you are truly committed to creating the kind of life you want.
But that's the real secret. What kind of life do YOU want?
We've been programmed since birth that everyone wants money, good health, and the ultimate relationship. Guys are programmed to want the fancy sports cars and the beautiful women. Women are programmed to want a happy household and a successful career at the same time.
What I'd like to do now is to give you some questions to ask yourself to find out what you really want out of life so you can set your own goals, not someone else's.
The first set of questions to ask yourself are: What in your life irritates you? What makes you feel less than satisfied? What would you like to get rid of if you could?
Although most of us have been programmed to believe that certain things will make us happy, few of us have been programmed to believe that other things will make us unhappy. If you know what makes you unhappy, you have a good idea of what will really make you happy.
Now, ask yourself these questions: How would you like to spend your free time? If you were given a full month to do anything you'd like to do, where would you go? If you were told that you would die in six months, what would you do with the time you had left to live?
That last question especially gets to the heart of the matter. Most people would very quickly dismiss all of the programming society has fed them if they thought they were going to die in six months.
Now, using that concept for just another moment, is there anything you'd like to accomplish to leave your mark on the world before you go?
This question starts to activate a part of your brain that normally stays quiet, thinking that there will always be time enough to do the important things in life. We all like to think so, but no-one really knows for sure.
Is there something that you could do to make this world a better place? Are there people that you could help in some way? Is there something you could do that would be remembered a hundred years from now?
Don't worry if the answer to that last question is 'no'. Not everyone is destined for greatness, and maybe you just aren't cut out to be a legend. There's no shame in just being a cog in the machine.
But if you think that there may be something you could do that would impact the world greatly, don't let modesty stand in your way either!
Somewhere in this line of questioning, most people tend to find their life's purpose. That thing that they were meant to do while on this Earth. Their mission in life. The one goal beyond all other goals that will drive them onward through thick and thin, through rain and snow and sleet, over mountains and oceans, until they overcome their greatest fears and succeed where all others have failed.
Rarely does anyone ask themselves these questions and come up with a goal of making a million dollars or marrying the newest supermodel.
But maybe you've found a goal to become the most successful salesperson in your company, a record that will stand for years before anyone else equals your achievements.
Maybe you've found a goal to teach kids to read.
Maybe you've found a goal to become a stellar example of how to demonstrate love in everyday situations.
Maybe you've found a goal to write a book that will teach the world an important lesson that no-one seems to have learned except you.
And maybe you've found a goal to help someone else achieve the success that you know they are capable of.
Whatever central goal you've found for yourself, here are some questions that will help you define what to do next.
Although you may need to research this question, what steps do you need to follow to reach your primary goal?
No-one really knows all the steps required to reach a particular goal, especially if it's one that no-one has reached before, but try to gather whatever information is readily available. Don't spend all your time looking for information, though. You have work to do, so get to it as soon as you have a good idea of where to get started.
Now that you know where you eventually want to end up in life, you may want to take some time to evaluate how the other projects in your life fit into the overall scheme of things.
Here's an example. I recently reviewed my own goals, mostly because I've found myself going in too many directions at once. One of my project, working with the website for my church, stood out as being inconsistent with my primary goal, which is to refine the Keys To Power system and make it available to as many people as possible.
I also noticed that what I thought was a goal of mine (to build a net worth of $1 million within the next year), wasn't so important to me. Actually, I'd be quite content with only $100,000.
And the importance of my photography business also found itself going out the window. It's fun, and I won't avoid it completely, but I really want to spend my time promoting the Keys To Power system to the world.
You may also find that some of your minor goals don't fit anymore with your primary goal.
But just as no man is an island, no goal is truly sufficient unto itself. Your primary goal needs partners to flourish.
What besides this primary goal do you need to be happy? Bring back that list of things that currently make you unhappy. What can you do to change them? Is there a way you can change them and make progress towards your primary goal at the same time?
Also bring back that list of things you'd like to spend your time doing. What can you fit into your schedule as you work towards your primary goal? Schools have periodic recess periods for a reason. No-one can work well without short breaks to have fun. Make sure to allow yourself to have some fun along the way!
There's a lot more that can be said about setting goals and balancing them with playtime. But I've said enough for one article. Go ahead, take a break and have some fun.
Then get to work, you have something important to accomplish!
Alan Tutt is the creator of the world-famous Keys To Power system and operates the PowerKeys Publishing network of websites. Find many insightful books that help you get maximum results from minimum effort, including the FREE 12 lesson course "Effortless Power" at http://www.PowerKeysPub.com.
Why Do We Not Follow Through On Goal Setting
Why do we not follow through on goal setting
I have written goal plans Many times and after a week or so stopped doing the actions necessary to succeed on my goals.
WHY IS THIS?
The number one reason why people do not follow through on achieving goals is a big enough WHY. We need to get disturbed and be honest what in our past holds us back something prevents us taking action this is when we use
excuses or stories what stories do you use hear is some of the things people say.
* I will do it tomorrow. I do not have time.
* It will not work. I do not believe in it.
* It is to hard. I am to tired.
And the list goes on.
The number two reason people do not follow through on goal setting they get stressed out trying to juggle to many things at work keeping the boss happy meeting dead lines, family and children, keeping up with the Jones in debt, this makes us fearful and we look for an escape. We use alcohol,
cigarettes, drugs, over eating, coffee, hundreds of tv channels, the internet, mobile phones.
So how do we find out what prevents us following through visit your past and find some unpleasant experiences and get upset this is a really good exercise and simple to do take out a couple sheets of paper and write down what do you get upset about from your past and do some thing that upsets you if you are in debt gather all your loans, credit card
statements and add up how much you owe this will make you see how bad it really is.
Getting disturbed will make you take action.
How did that feel painful I hope getting disturbed will make you take action now we have got to convert this into positive action how do we do that use motion to change your emotion the way we use our physical body the best way exercise.
Now you have got disturbed you have to decide what do you want for your life writing down a massive action plan and schedule time when you can work on your goals makes it real and commits you to achieving the success you want.
Now add in a five day plan for exercising and eating a health balance diet with fresh fruit and water and make time for what I call your golden hour start with a warm up to your exercise routine spend ten minuets being thankful for your life and family I will let you think of your own
reasons.
For the next 5-10 minuets learn some breathing techniques breath in for 10 seconds hold your breath for 40 seconds then exhale for 20 seconds what this does is helps keep your immune system working helping you to stay health I recommend 5 to start then build it up to 10.
Next do your exercise for about 30 minuets at first you may find it difficult but after a few days your body will start to get used to it and as you do your exercise (which can be running cycling swimming what ever you are comfortable with) as you exercise work up a sweat but not so it burns you out.
The next part mite sound daft but do incantations which is just speaking or chanting out your goal this has a tremendous effect in helping you achieve your goals then warm down for the last 10 minuets and think of the magic moments of the last week just doing your exercise will give
you a sense of pride.
You may want to start your exercise routine slowly and build up to the golden hour if you have health issues please consult your doctor.
Another use full thing to do is to use a journal or diary and write down your experiences how were you feeling this is the way to judge if you are moving towards your goal.
What ever you make a must will happen if its a should it will not happen so please commit to doing your golden hour five of the seven days for 30 days and you will start to enjoy yourself.
Then do it for another 30 days this will then become a habit you will do for the rest of your life but do not kill your dreams live with joy and happiness.
I have been studying goal setting and personal development for the last 10 years and hear is some of the things i have found about goal setting.
www.yoursuccessstore.com/default.asp?kbid=6077
I have written goal plans Many times and after a week or so stopped doing the actions necessary to succeed on my goals.
WHY IS THIS?
The number one reason why people do not follow through on achieving goals is a big enough WHY. We need to get disturbed and be honest what in our past holds us back something prevents us taking action this is when we use
excuses or stories what stories do you use hear is some of the things people say.
* I will do it tomorrow. I do not have time.
* It will not work. I do not believe in it.
* It is to hard. I am to tired.
And the list goes on.
The number two reason people do not follow through on goal setting they get stressed out trying to juggle to many things at work keeping the boss happy meeting dead lines, family and children, keeping up with the Jones in debt, this makes us fearful and we look for an escape. We use alcohol,
cigarettes, drugs, over eating, coffee, hundreds of tv channels, the internet, mobile phones.
So how do we find out what prevents us following through visit your past and find some unpleasant experiences and get upset this is a really good exercise and simple to do take out a couple sheets of paper and write down what do you get upset about from your past and do some thing that upsets you if you are in debt gather all your loans, credit card
statements and add up how much you owe this will make you see how bad it really is.
Getting disturbed will make you take action.
How did that feel painful I hope getting disturbed will make you take action now we have got to convert this into positive action how do we do that use motion to change your emotion the way we use our physical body the best way exercise.
Now you have got disturbed you have to decide what do you want for your life writing down a massive action plan and schedule time when you can work on your goals makes it real and commits you to achieving the success you want.
Now add in a five day plan for exercising and eating a health balance diet with fresh fruit and water and make time for what I call your golden hour start with a warm up to your exercise routine spend ten minuets being thankful for your life and family I will let you think of your own
reasons.
For the next 5-10 minuets learn some breathing techniques breath in for 10 seconds hold your breath for 40 seconds then exhale for 20 seconds what this does is helps keep your immune system working helping you to stay health I recommend 5 to start then build it up to 10.
Next do your exercise for about 30 minuets at first you may find it difficult but after a few days your body will start to get used to it and as you do your exercise (which can be running cycling swimming what ever you are comfortable with) as you exercise work up a sweat but not so it burns you out.
The next part mite sound daft but do incantations which is just speaking or chanting out your goal this has a tremendous effect in helping you achieve your goals then warm down for the last 10 minuets and think of the magic moments of the last week just doing your exercise will give
you a sense of pride.
You may want to start your exercise routine slowly and build up to the golden hour if you have health issues please consult your doctor.
Another use full thing to do is to use a journal or diary and write down your experiences how were you feeling this is the way to judge if you are moving towards your goal.
What ever you make a must will happen if its a should it will not happen so please commit to doing your golden hour five of the seven days for 30 days and you will start to enjoy yourself.
Then do it for another 30 days this will then become a habit you will do for the rest of your life but do not kill your dreams live with joy and happiness.
I have been studying goal setting and personal development for the last 10 years and hear is some of the things i have found about goal setting.
www.yoursuccessstore.com/default.asp?kbid=6077
Beginners Guide To Setting Goals
“Dream big Dreams” they tell you..., “Reach for the stars, anything is possible” the great motivators preach to you, “You can become a millionaire!” so they say...
Is it true? Can you set goals and really become wildly successful? The answer is yes, absolutely! You can 'be, do, and have anything' that your mind can conceive. However, you must crawl before you can walk. And the same saying holds true with setting and achieving goals.
Be reasonable: If you are new to setting goals and the art of 'positive thinking' courses, then begin setting goals that are within reach. Of course you should dream big and work to attain high levels of success, but in order to live your big dreams you will have to learn to complete a lot of 'little dreams' along the way. So start by setting modest goals that are within your grasp, ones that are easy to achieve. Once the first goal has been accomplished then set another, and another, etc.
Work your way up in goals. Once you have tackled each goal and worked your way up to larger goals, it will be much easier to break through those mental barriers. For example, a high jumper would not set the bar at 10 feet if he never cleared 5 feet, would he? No, he would work his way up.
Always Leave yourself plenty of time. Many people overlook the importance of allowing enough time between the onset of the goal to the deadline in which they would like to see the goal accomplished. They feel that they can complete a goal much faster then what is possible and when the goal is not reached due to insufficient time, they punish themselves by thinking they are a “failure”.
And there is nothing more self destructive then feeling negative about yourself. Having a self concept such as being a “failure” is the poison that most people face all of their lives. Because of negative programming and a poor self concept that was developed by society, these people live their lives always falling short of their goals and dreams.
It's ok if you have feelings of self doubt and fear in the beginning stages of your personal development journey. We all did at one point. But you must be careful not to allow any negative input from anyone, from this point on, if you are going to work hard at setting and achieving your goals.
This means that you may have to spend less time with some of your friends that are a negative influence to your mind. Also, you must stop socializing with anyone that makes you feel inadequate, reduce the amount of television you watch, and do not let in a lot of negative news press from the newspapers into your head.
Is it true? Can you set goals and really become wildly successful? The answer is yes, absolutely! You can 'be, do, and have anything' that your mind can conceive. However, you must crawl before you can walk. And the same saying holds true with setting and achieving goals.
Be reasonable: If you are new to setting goals and the art of 'positive thinking' courses, then begin setting goals that are within reach. Of course you should dream big and work to attain high levels of success, but in order to live your big dreams you will have to learn to complete a lot of 'little dreams' along the way. So start by setting modest goals that are within your grasp, ones that are easy to achieve. Once the first goal has been accomplished then set another, and another, etc.
Work your way up in goals. Once you have tackled each goal and worked your way up to larger goals, it will be much easier to break through those mental barriers. For example, a high jumper would not set the bar at 10 feet if he never cleared 5 feet, would he? No, he would work his way up.
Always Leave yourself plenty of time. Many people overlook the importance of allowing enough time between the onset of the goal to the deadline in which they would like to see the goal accomplished. They feel that they can complete a goal much faster then what is possible and when the goal is not reached due to insufficient time, they punish themselves by thinking they are a “failure”.
And there is nothing more self destructive then feeling negative about yourself. Having a self concept such as being a “failure” is the poison that most people face all of their lives. Because of negative programming and a poor self concept that was developed by society, these people live their lives always falling short of their goals and dreams.
It's ok if you have feelings of self doubt and fear in the beginning stages of your personal development journey. We all did at one point. But you must be careful not to allow any negative input from anyone, from this point on, if you are going to work hard at setting and achieving your goals.
This means that you may have to spend less time with some of your friends that are a negative influence to your mind. Also, you must stop socializing with anyone that makes you feel inadequate, reduce the amount of television you watch, and do not let in a lot of negative news press from the newspapers into your head.
Goal Setting: The One Step In Setting Goals Where Most People Fail
Is your life headed in the direction you want it to? Are you waking up each day with energy and purpose? Do you know what you need to do and how to do it in order to get more money, more friends, or more family time?
Getting what you want out of life starts with goals. I know, I know – you are bored of hearing about goals and how to set goals, but are you doing it? Are you waking up each day with pen and paper? Do you have a list of your daily, weekly, and monthly goals? My motivational students who come back to tell me they are still having trouble with creating more abundance in their life all fall short of making goal-setting a daily part of their lives.
On the other hand, successful students who walk away from my seminars and take action at goal-setting wind up double or tripling their earnings, are loosing weight they have been trying to take off for years, and becoming more organized and happy.
What has been their secret? Setting goals, writing them down, and taking action! Let's discuss the term “action”. Do you know what type of action to take? Do you realize that action is not just a physical act when it comes to setting goals?
There is also a mental type of action that must be set in motion. One such example of mental action is to decide “how” you are going to accomplish your goals. This means writing a plan of just how you are going to start and finish a particular goal. Writing plans is a form of mental effort because you have to think of your steps of action before you can take them.
Ask yourself these questions: “How am I going to do it? What are the key sets of principles that will help enable me to achieve my task? What are the strategies that will have to come into play for me to finish my goal successfully?”
At this stage of planning the course of your goals some very tough realities may spring up. In other words, you must be brutally honest with yourself of exactly how you will finish a task when writing a plan. And we know that we must write down the actual physical work that is necessary. And then comes the discipline to follow through with only ourselves to push us to keep going until the job is done.
This is the one stage of goal-setting that spells failure for many people all across the globe. They fail to achieve their goals due to a lack of discipline to stay the course and keep themselves motivated to be a winner. Do not fall into this habit. Do not set goals, write plans, and then dream your life away. Take action, stay disciplined. With disciplined action you can have, be, and do anything you want in life.
Getting what you want out of life starts with goals. I know, I know – you are bored of hearing about goals and how to set goals, but are you doing it? Are you waking up each day with pen and paper? Do you have a list of your daily, weekly, and monthly goals? My motivational students who come back to tell me they are still having trouble with creating more abundance in their life all fall short of making goal-setting a daily part of their lives.
On the other hand, successful students who walk away from my seminars and take action at goal-setting wind up double or tripling their earnings, are loosing weight they have been trying to take off for years, and becoming more organized and happy.
What has been their secret? Setting goals, writing them down, and taking action! Let's discuss the term “action”. Do you know what type of action to take? Do you realize that action is not just a physical act when it comes to setting goals?
There is also a mental type of action that must be set in motion. One such example of mental action is to decide “how” you are going to accomplish your goals. This means writing a plan of just how you are going to start and finish a particular goal. Writing plans is a form of mental effort because you have to think of your steps of action before you can take them.
Ask yourself these questions: “How am I going to do it? What are the key sets of principles that will help enable me to achieve my task? What are the strategies that will have to come into play for me to finish my goal successfully?”
At this stage of planning the course of your goals some very tough realities may spring up. In other words, you must be brutally honest with yourself of exactly how you will finish a task when writing a plan. And we know that we must write down the actual physical work that is necessary. And then comes the discipline to follow through with only ourselves to push us to keep going until the job is done.
This is the one stage of goal-setting that spells failure for many people all across the globe. They fail to achieve their goals due to a lack of discipline to stay the course and keep themselves motivated to be a winner. Do not fall into this habit. Do not set goals, write plans, and then dream your life away. Take action, stay disciplined. With disciplined action you can have, be, and do anything you want in life.
Accomplish Your Goals Faster By Working On Your Important Tasks First!
Have you ever started your day with the intention of working on a specific project that was within the scope of your daily goals, and then discovered that the entire day had come and gone and you never got to it?
Perhaps it was an online project that you have been working on launching for weeks or months. Perhaps it was a simple chore that your wife had asked you to do the day prior. Whatever the task is, not having a enough time or not remembering the goal at hand happens to everyone at some time or another throughout life.
There is no one particular way that I am going to tell you to prioritize tasks with. You can label them however you want. For example, I prefer to have “A” tasks, then “B” tasks, etc. And within each task letter there may be several smaller goals that make up the entire job. On my list they will be labeled “A1” and “A2”, etc.
You must put your most urgent and important tasks first. In this case today my “A” goal is to do whatever it is that is most important, and with which would result in a very negative situation if I failed to do it. In other words, my most urgent things to do are ones that have serious reprecussions if they were forgotten about.
An example would be my work requirements. Obviously I cannot go to the office and then play around on the computer all day, so I would label my main priorities in accordance with my work. I may get fired for this, or if I own my own business, I may loose my most profitable accounts if these “work requirements” are not adhered to.
By going further down the line, my D or E goals would be items that have little consequence if I missed them or not. Things like washing my car, checking my email, or phoning home to see what is for dinner. These are obviously not the most hard pressing items that I need to do, yet many times I have made the mistake of wasting time doing them, yet washing my car, making phone calls, checking emails, and browsing discussion groups could have been put off without any negative reprecussions.
Many people tend to get into the bad habit of putting off their bigger goals by doing the less meaningful tasks during the day. This leads to procrastination and then you wonder why you are not accomplishing your goals.
Set aside a lot of time to reach your major daily goals. Since most of our important projects or tasks can't be completed in one sitting, you'll make your life easier and reduce your stress level when you can work on them with plenty of lead time. You do a little now and a little later and before you know it – you’re done!
Perhaps it was an online project that you have been working on launching for weeks or months. Perhaps it was a simple chore that your wife had asked you to do the day prior. Whatever the task is, not having a enough time or not remembering the goal at hand happens to everyone at some time or another throughout life.
There is no one particular way that I am going to tell you to prioritize tasks with. You can label them however you want. For example, I prefer to have “A” tasks, then “B” tasks, etc. And within each task letter there may be several smaller goals that make up the entire job. On my list they will be labeled “A1” and “A2”, etc.
You must put your most urgent and important tasks first. In this case today my “A” goal is to do whatever it is that is most important, and with which would result in a very negative situation if I failed to do it. In other words, my most urgent things to do are ones that have serious reprecussions if they were forgotten about.
An example would be my work requirements. Obviously I cannot go to the office and then play around on the computer all day, so I would label my main priorities in accordance with my work. I may get fired for this, or if I own my own business, I may loose my most profitable accounts if these “work requirements” are not adhered to.
By going further down the line, my D or E goals would be items that have little consequence if I missed them or not. Things like washing my car, checking my email, or phoning home to see what is for dinner. These are obviously not the most hard pressing items that I need to do, yet many times I have made the mistake of wasting time doing them, yet washing my car, making phone calls, checking emails, and browsing discussion groups could have been put off without any negative reprecussions.
Many people tend to get into the bad habit of putting off their bigger goals by doing the less meaningful tasks during the day. This leads to procrastination and then you wonder why you are not accomplishing your goals.
Set aside a lot of time to reach your major daily goals. Since most of our important projects or tasks can't be completed in one sitting, you'll make your life easier and reduce your stress level when you can work on them with plenty of lead time. You do a little now and a little later and before you know it – you’re done!
Change Your Life Forever: 5 Steps to Setting Goals
Would you like to know a simple 'step-by-step' system of setting goals that can enhance every area of your life, and for as long as you live? Do you have the courage to set goals that will change your life beyond your wild dreams? Of course you do, but nothing will happen if you do not back your plan with action!
There is an old quote by Wallace D. Wattles that goes “An ounce of action is worth more than a pound in theorizing”. In other words, you may be an expert in writing goals and making plans but unless you actually follow through with those plans you will never reach the levels of peak performance that you desire.
1. Make a choice: First look at each section of your life and really choose what you want to have in those areas. Let your mind go and write down your desires no matter how far out of reach they may seem at the moment.
2. Be specific: Leave no detail left behind. Don't just write “I wish to make more money from my job next year”. Rather, write “By December of next year I will have increased my income by $20,000” These are real, tangible goals, that are clear enough to materialize.
3. Set deadlines: If you notice the above example, I specifically set a time-table for my goal. Setting deadlines cannot be stressed enough. Your subconscious mind is like a calculator. You cannot just push in half of the equation and expect to get the answer; you must give a clear concise instruction to get your answers.
4. Form your plan: If you have followed steps 1 – 3 then you will have a list of everything you wish to change in your life and exactly what you want out of those changes with clear concise instructions along with solid deadlines. It is now time to form your plan by writing everything you will have to do to achieve your goals. Be bold, yet realistic.
5. Take action: Do you know what the number one cause of failure is in most people's lives? The answer is never taking action. We develop these comfort zones and become afraid to step out of those boundaries and really go after our goals. We know that we must change; we know that we have to follow our plan to be happy, but seldom do. Do not let your written plan of action go to waste. Start immediately on working towards your goals!
There is an old quote by Wallace D. Wattles that goes “An ounce of action is worth more than a pound in theorizing”. In other words, you may be an expert in writing goals and making plans but unless you actually follow through with those plans you will never reach the levels of peak performance that you desire.
1. Make a choice: First look at each section of your life and really choose what you want to have in those areas. Let your mind go and write down your desires no matter how far out of reach they may seem at the moment.
2. Be specific: Leave no detail left behind. Don't just write “I wish to make more money from my job next year”. Rather, write “By December of next year I will have increased my income by $20,000” These are real, tangible goals, that are clear enough to materialize.
3. Set deadlines: If you notice the above example, I specifically set a time-table for my goal. Setting deadlines cannot be stressed enough. Your subconscious mind is like a calculator. You cannot just push in half of the equation and expect to get the answer; you must give a clear concise instruction to get your answers.
4. Form your plan: If you have followed steps 1 – 3 then you will have a list of everything you wish to change in your life and exactly what you want out of those changes with clear concise instructions along with solid deadlines. It is now time to form your plan by writing everything you will have to do to achieve your goals. Be bold, yet realistic.
5. Take action: Do you know what the number one cause of failure is in most people's lives? The answer is never taking action. We develop these comfort zones and become afraid to step out of those boundaries and really go after our goals. We know that we must change; we know that we have to follow our plan to be happy, but seldom do. Do not let your written plan of action go to waste. Start immediately on working towards your goals!
How To Discover The Most Important Goals Of Your Life
Have you ever wondered just what it is that you are supposed to be striving for in life? Is the act of setting up goals for financial gain or goals of personal success seemingly predetermined?
Sometimes people are not sure exactly what their goals are because they cannot break the surface of that conditioned way of thinking that they have been taught by society. So when they read in a motivational book to “set goals” on how much money they want to have, or how much happiness they want to gain then the first idea that pops into their heads is, unfortunately, not the most important item that they really want to go after.
You have 30 seconds! In the next thirty seconds you are about to discover your inner most dominating goals that you probably have not put much thought into actualizing. These goals will be the most important ones that you will want to accomplish at this time of your life.
Are you ready? Grab a piece of paper and a pen or pencil and get ready to write the very first items that come to your mind after I ask the next question:
“In 30 seconds or less, without thinking about it... What are the 3 most important goals in your life right now?”
What 3 things pop into your head immediately as the most important goals that you must have in your life this very moment? Don't think – just write – you only have 30 seconds!
This technique was taught by renowned author and motivational speaker Brian Tracy in is best selling audio CD collection called “The Psychology of Achievement”. In it Mr. Tracy goes on to explain that everything you write down during this fast paced 'non thinking' moment of getting your immediate goals on paper will be the ones in which you need to make your first priorities in life.
You need to go to work immediately on setting up a plan and focusing on the results of your brainstorming session. Many people's answer to that question are goals in which they normally would not have written had they had to think about them.
Your next step is to do everything possible to bring yourself closer to achieving these goals. Action is the only answer. And remember, as Napoleon Hill says in the great book, “Think and Grow Rich”...
“Whatever the mind of man can conceive and believe, he can achieve!”
Sometimes people are not sure exactly what their goals are because they cannot break the surface of that conditioned way of thinking that they have been taught by society. So when they read in a motivational book to “set goals” on how much money they want to have, or how much happiness they want to gain then the first idea that pops into their heads is, unfortunately, not the most important item that they really want to go after.
You have 30 seconds! In the next thirty seconds you are about to discover your inner most dominating goals that you probably have not put much thought into actualizing. These goals will be the most important ones that you will want to accomplish at this time of your life.
Are you ready? Grab a piece of paper and a pen or pencil and get ready to write the very first items that come to your mind after I ask the next question:
“In 30 seconds or less, without thinking about it... What are the 3 most important goals in your life right now?”
What 3 things pop into your head immediately as the most important goals that you must have in your life this very moment? Don't think – just write – you only have 30 seconds!
This technique was taught by renowned author and motivational speaker Brian Tracy in is best selling audio CD collection called “The Psychology of Achievement”. In it Mr. Tracy goes on to explain that everything you write down during this fast paced 'non thinking' moment of getting your immediate goals on paper will be the ones in which you need to make your first priorities in life.
You need to go to work immediately on setting up a plan and focusing on the results of your brainstorming session. Many people's answer to that question are goals in which they normally would not have written had they had to think about them.
Your next step is to do everything possible to bring yourself closer to achieving these goals. Action is the only answer. And remember, as Napoleon Hill says in the great book, “Think and Grow Rich”...
“Whatever the mind of man can conceive and believe, he can achieve!”
Setting Your Goals - Easier Said, Easily Done
The basics of setting a goal is an open secret known by top-caliber athletes, successful businessmen and businesswomen and all types of achievers in all the different fields. The basics of setting goals give you short-term and long-term motivation and focus. They help you set focus on the acquisition of required knowledge and help you to plan and organize your resources and your time so that you can get the best out of your life.
Setting clearly defined short term and long term goals will enable you to measure your progress and achieve personal satisfaction once you have successfully met your goals. Charting your progress will also enable you to actually see the stages of completion leading to the actual realization of your goals. This eliminates the feeling of a long and pointless grind towards achieving your goal. Your self-confidence and level of competence will also improve as you will be more aware of your capabilities as you complete or achieve your goals.
The basics of goal settings will involve deciding what you really want to do with your personal life and what short term and long term goals you need to achieve it. Then you have to break down goals into the smaller and manageable targets that you must complete in your way to achieving your lifetime targets. Once you have your list waste no time in tackling your goals.
A good way to have a manageable list is to have a daily and weekly set of goals. By doing this you will be always in the position of going towards you life plan goals. Everyday will give you the opportunity to fulfill a certain goal giving you the feeling of accomplishment.
Here are some pointers that should be taken into consideration in setting goals and achieving them.
Attitude plays a very big role in setting and achieving your goals. You must ask yourself if any part of you or your mind holding you back towards completing your simplest goals? If there are any part of your behavior that is being a hindrance or puts your plans into disarray? If you do have problems in these areas then the immediate thing to do is to address this problem. Solutions may include a visit to a doctor or psychiatrist to control your emotions.
Careers are made by good time management practice. Failing in a career is often attributed to bad time management. Careers require a lot from an individual which often makes the career the life of the individual. Plan how far do you want to go into your career.
Education is key in achieving your goals. If your goals require you to have a certain kind of degree or require a certain specialization or demand a certain skill to be developed, make plans in getting the appropriate education.
Your family should never be left out of your plans. If you are just starting out then you have to decide if you want to be a parent or when you want to be a parent. You also have to know if you really would be a good parent and how well would you relate to extended family members
Personal financial situations also play a major role in achieving your goals. Have a realistic goal on how much you really want to earn. You also must be able to create plans or stages by which you will be able to reach your earning potential.
Physically gifted individuals may be able to achieve sports related goals like being in the National Basketball association or National Football League. Determining your physical capabilities should be one of your priorities. Physical limitations could however be conquered with proper planning.
As the saying goes -'All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy', or something to that effect, is by all means true down to the last the letter. Giving yourself a little pleasure: should be included into your plans.
To start achieving your lifetime goals, set a quarter of a century plan, then break it down to 5 year plans then break it down again to 1 year plans, then 6 month plans then monthly plans, then weekly, then daily.
Then create a things-to-do list for the day.
Always review your plans and prepare for contingencies.
The basics of goal settings should not be so difficult once you get to be familiar with them.
Setting clearly defined short term and long term goals will enable you to measure your progress and achieve personal satisfaction once you have successfully met your goals. Charting your progress will also enable you to actually see the stages of completion leading to the actual realization of your goals. This eliminates the feeling of a long and pointless grind towards achieving your goal. Your self-confidence and level of competence will also improve as you will be more aware of your capabilities as you complete or achieve your goals.
The basics of goal settings will involve deciding what you really want to do with your personal life and what short term and long term goals you need to achieve it. Then you have to break down goals into the smaller and manageable targets that you must complete in your way to achieving your lifetime targets. Once you have your list waste no time in tackling your goals.
A good way to have a manageable list is to have a daily and weekly set of goals. By doing this you will be always in the position of going towards you life plan goals. Everyday will give you the opportunity to fulfill a certain goal giving you the feeling of accomplishment.
Here are some pointers that should be taken into consideration in setting goals and achieving them.
Attitude plays a very big role in setting and achieving your goals. You must ask yourself if any part of you or your mind holding you back towards completing your simplest goals? If there are any part of your behavior that is being a hindrance or puts your plans into disarray? If you do have problems in these areas then the immediate thing to do is to address this problem. Solutions may include a visit to a doctor or psychiatrist to control your emotions.
Careers are made by good time management practice. Failing in a career is often attributed to bad time management. Careers require a lot from an individual which often makes the career the life of the individual. Plan how far do you want to go into your career.
Education is key in achieving your goals. If your goals require you to have a certain kind of degree or require a certain specialization or demand a certain skill to be developed, make plans in getting the appropriate education.
Your family should never be left out of your plans. If you are just starting out then you have to decide if you want to be a parent or when you want to be a parent. You also have to know if you really would be a good parent and how well would you relate to extended family members
Personal financial situations also play a major role in achieving your goals. Have a realistic goal on how much you really want to earn. You also must be able to create plans or stages by which you will be able to reach your earning potential.
Physically gifted individuals may be able to achieve sports related goals like being in the National Basketball association or National Football League. Determining your physical capabilities should be one of your priorities. Physical limitations could however be conquered with proper planning.
As the saying goes -'All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy', or something to that effect, is by all means true down to the last the letter. Giving yourself a little pleasure: should be included into your plans.
To start achieving your lifetime goals, set a quarter of a century plan, then break it down to 5 year plans then break it down again to 1 year plans, then 6 month plans then monthly plans, then weekly, then daily.
Then create a things-to-do list for the day.
Always review your plans and prepare for contingencies.
The basics of goal settings should not be so difficult once you get to be familiar with them.
8 Tips for Achieving Your Goals
We all have goals and aspirations. Much to our chagrin though, our goals and aspirations require effort and often lots of it. As well, one typically does not achieve his or her goals over night. This takes time…often much time. In the following, we will discuss eight different ways to obtain and retain motivation so that you can start on the path to achieving your goals today.
1) Set only one goal at a time. Oftentimes we sabotage our success because we spread ourselves too thin and broaden our focus instead of narrowing it, honing it in on one particular task at a time. Start with one goal and simplify this goal down to its bare essence such that the goal can be stated concretely in about 10 words or less. E.g., "I want to lose 10 lbs. in six weeks."
2) Evaluate your desire and motivation. Do you truly desire that which you seek or do you merely want it for superficial reasons? If the object of your desire is not deeply rooted, then the likelihood of obtaining it falls dramatically. Make sure that you are pursuing your goal for the right reasons.
3) Find inspiration for accomplishing your goal. We humans often have more power at our disposal than we think. We have within ourselves the ability to accomplish great things. Many of us have accomplished things that were once deemed impossible even, overcoming great odds and adversity. Find someone who has overcome the problems that you yourself seek to overcome or who has met the goal that you are pursuing such that you can learn from them.
4) Make a public commitment to accomplishing your goal. It is a fact that once someone states their goal publicly they are in fact more likely to accomplish it. Tell a family member, friend, co-worker, someone—anyone, about your goal and how you intend to accomplish it. You can even post your goal online for the world to see.
5) Seek out support. People often share common desires and goals. Seek out a support group related to that which you seek to accomplish. This will give you the opportunity to learn from others as well as to help others just like yourself along the way to achieving a common goal. There are plenty of online support forums today.
6) Think thoughts conducive to success. Change is difficult, especially when one is attempting to achieve things foreign to their present situation. Difficulty can be a breeding ground for negative thinking and negative thoughts can undermine the attainment of one’s goal. It is imperative that you constantly monitor your thought processes and think positive thoughts of success and never for an instance allow for even the possibility of failure. Our minds structure our reality.
7) Keep a journal. Write down your goal and how you intend to accomplish it—exactly how you intend to accomplish it. Refer to it daily, reading over your goal and checking off that which you have already accomplished. It is also helpful to chronicle your struggles alongside your successes. Putting these things on paper service one twofold: by reinforcing the pursuit of the goal and by providing feedback on one’s progress.
8) Keep before you, at all times, the benefits of attaining your goal. You are pursuing your goal for a reason or a set of reasons…keep these in front of you at all times for motivation. Motivation will wax and wane and you need a focal point to fall back on in times of struggle.
1) Set only one goal at a time. Oftentimes we sabotage our success because we spread ourselves too thin and broaden our focus instead of narrowing it, honing it in on one particular task at a time. Start with one goal and simplify this goal down to its bare essence such that the goal can be stated concretely in about 10 words or less. E.g., "I want to lose 10 lbs. in six weeks."
2) Evaluate your desire and motivation. Do you truly desire that which you seek or do you merely want it for superficial reasons? If the object of your desire is not deeply rooted, then the likelihood of obtaining it falls dramatically. Make sure that you are pursuing your goal for the right reasons.
3) Find inspiration for accomplishing your goal. We humans often have more power at our disposal than we think. We have within ourselves the ability to accomplish great things. Many of us have accomplished things that were once deemed impossible even, overcoming great odds and adversity. Find someone who has overcome the problems that you yourself seek to overcome or who has met the goal that you are pursuing such that you can learn from them.
4) Make a public commitment to accomplishing your goal. It is a fact that once someone states their goal publicly they are in fact more likely to accomplish it. Tell a family member, friend, co-worker, someone—anyone, about your goal and how you intend to accomplish it. You can even post your goal online for the world to see.
5) Seek out support. People often share common desires and goals. Seek out a support group related to that which you seek to accomplish. This will give you the opportunity to learn from others as well as to help others just like yourself along the way to achieving a common goal. There are plenty of online support forums today.
6) Think thoughts conducive to success. Change is difficult, especially when one is attempting to achieve things foreign to their present situation. Difficulty can be a breeding ground for negative thinking and negative thoughts can undermine the attainment of one’s goal. It is imperative that you constantly monitor your thought processes and think positive thoughts of success and never for an instance allow for even the possibility of failure. Our minds structure our reality.
7) Keep a journal. Write down your goal and how you intend to accomplish it—exactly how you intend to accomplish it. Refer to it daily, reading over your goal and checking off that which you have already accomplished. It is also helpful to chronicle your struggles alongside your successes. Putting these things on paper service one twofold: by reinforcing the pursuit of the goal and by providing feedback on one’s progress.
8) Keep before you, at all times, the benefits of attaining your goal. You are pursuing your goal for a reason or a set of reasons…keep these in front of you at all times for motivation. Motivation will wax and wane and you need a focal point to fall back on in times of struggle.
Examples of Personal Development Goals Which Can Change Your Life
Personal development goals are very much a part of our daily lives than we actually know. In fact, in areas of our lives such as work, relationships, leisure and family life, we often set goals for them. There are actually many examples of personal development goals that are present in our lives and these examples of personal development goals serve to remind us the importance of them in steering the direction in which our lives move in.
Achieving positive self esteem is a personal development goal which people have and is the foundation of a person's success in life, love and work. Positive self esteem is definitely a key to peak performance and unveils a person's full potential in an aspect of his/her life. Many top achievers and peak performers hold onto this goal and maximize their self esteem because having a positive one helps them to be undaunted by failures and mistakes and continue to work towards achieving the things that they want.
Establishing result-targeted strategies is another personal development goal that most people have because they want to behave in ways that will bring them closer to where they want to be. It pushes them to acquire new skills and knowledge that they need to achieve their potential and the success they desire. Moreover, it helps to create a sense of direction to move in.
Self motivation is closely related to positive self esteem and success where self-motivation is about having the ability to achieve a permanent peak performance and sustaining a maximum level of energy over a long period of time. Thus, self-motivation is a personal development goal where people work towards maximizing both their potential and performance. It is about learning the action steps to get rid of obstacles and overcoming difficulties and constantly motivating oneself without being daunted by failures and situational factors.
Lifelong learning is really a shortcut to increasing one's performance and productivity where there's constant renewal and acquirement of knowledge and new skills. It is more about the investment in both education and one self which will benefit a person in the long run. Moreover, education can increase one's profitability and skills and knowledge thus become unique selling points of a person. Thus, it is one of the most important personal development goals that one should have.
In the area of personal development, it centers on the person's wellbeing and seeks to enhance him/her. There are many other kinds of examples of personal development goals that people have because they help to lead us towards the ideal person that we hope to be. Lastly, it is not able how many personal development goals you may have but how much effort that you are willing to put in to achieve them that matters. Click here for more help on achieving your goals.
Achieving positive self esteem is a personal development goal which people have and is the foundation of a person's success in life, love and work. Positive self esteem is definitely a key to peak performance and unveils a person's full potential in an aspect of his/her life. Many top achievers and peak performers hold onto this goal and maximize their self esteem because having a positive one helps them to be undaunted by failures and mistakes and continue to work towards achieving the things that they want.
Establishing result-targeted strategies is another personal development goal that most people have because they want to behave in ways that will bring them closer to where they want to be. It pushes them to acquire new skills and knowledge that they need to achieve their potential and the success they desire. Moreover, it helps to create a sense of direction to move in.
Self motivation is closely related to positive self esteem and success where self-motivation is about having the ability to achieve a permanent peak performance and sustaining a maximum level of energy over a long period of time. Thus, self-motivation is a personal development goal where people work towards maximizing both their potential and performance. It is about learning the action steps to get rid of obstacles and overcoming difficulties and constantly motivating oneself without being daunted by failures and situational factors.
Lifelong learning is really a shortcut to increasing one's performance and productivity where there's constant renewal and acquirement of knowledge and new skills. It is more about the investment in both education and one self which will benefit a person in the long run. Moreover, education can increase one's profitability and skills and knowledge thus become unique selling points of a person. Thus, it is one of the most important personal development goals that one should have.
In the area of personal development, it centers on the person's wellbeing and seeks to enhance him/her. There are many other kinds of examples of personal development goals that people have because they help to lead us towards the ideal person that we hope to be. Lastly, it is not able how many personal development goals you may have but how much effort that you are willing to put in to achieve them that matters. Click here for more help on achieving your goals.
Family Goals: 4 Tips to Setting Effective Family Goals
Research has shown that boys and girls grow up with the best chance of succeeding in life when they have two loving, caring parents. Certainly, a single parent raising children can do a wonderful job as well for some. Nonetheless, it's extremely vital to learn how to set effective family goals.
In many respects, how your family operates is representative of how your life operates. Do you want your children to greet you enthusiastically when they come back from visiting friends or participating in some after-school activity? If they don't regularly do this, you might want to set a goal of greeting them daily at some other interval with open arms when you return from work.
Below are 5 tips to setting effective family goals:
Setting Effective Family Goals Tip #1: Applaud accomplishments
If your child comes home from school with an A on a spelling test or a piece of artwork he/she is particularly proud of, seize the moment. Pick up the item, look it over carefully, ask questions about it and show interest.
Setting Effective Family Goals Tip #2: Bring them into your discussions
By bringing all family members into your discussions, including your children will help to show that you respect them on the interpersonal level. You're implying that your children are full-fledged human beings, even if they are smaller than you, and that they have opinions and observations that count.
Setting Effective Family Goals Tip #3: Communicating Effectively
When you boil down to the elements of a successful family, besides love, the most crucial element is effective communication. Without it, you and your family could be in for years of misunderstandings, hurt feelings and even alienation from one another.
When it comes to dealing with your spouse, a growing body of evidence suggests that to be effective, you need to connect with your spouse so that he or she believes you're on his or her side. In other words, achieving the outcome you want often involves helping your spouse achieve the outcome he or she wants.
Setting Effective Family Goals Tip #4: Uncover expectations
In every relationship, there are bound to be roles, responsibilities and expectations to be undertaken. To avoid the conflicts that result from unequal expectations, write down the specific expectations of each person. If those expectations are agreed on, conflict resolution becomes fairly simple compared to continuing in the same old way and falling into the same old arguments.
Setting Effective Family Goals Tip #5: Uplift each other
Sometimes when things don't seem to be going so well, do not be discouraged but continue to celebrate what you do have, be it good health, a good home, or simply each other. Always uplift each other.
Now that you've learnt the above tips on setting effective family goals, start implementing them and build healthy and loving family relationships now! Click here for more help on achieving your goals.
In many respects, how your family operates is representative of how your life operates. Do you want your children to greet you enthusiastically when they come back from visiting friends or participating in some after-school activity? If they don't regularly do this, you might want to set a goal of greeting them daily at some other interval with open arms when you return from work.
Below are 5 tips to setting effective family goals:
Setting Effective Family Goals Tip #1: Applaud accomplishments
If your child comes home from school with an A on a spelling test or a piece of artwork he/she is particularly proud of, seize the moment. Pick up the item, look it over carefully, ask questions about it and show interest.
Setting Effective Family Goals Tip #2: Bring them into your discussions
By bringing all family members into your discussions, including your children will help to show that you respect them on the interpersonal level. You're implying that your children are full-fledged human beings, even if they are smaller than you, and that they have opinions and observations that count.
Setting Effective Family Goals Tip #3: Communicating Effectively
When you boil down to the elements of a successful family, besides love, the most crucial element is effective communication. Without it, you and your family could be in for years of misunderstandings, hurt feelings and even alienation from one another.
When it comes to dealing with your spouse, a growing body of evidence suggests that to be effective, you need to connect with your spouse so that he or she believes you're on his or her side. In other words, achieving the outcome you want often involves helping your spouse achieve the outcome he or she wants.
Setting Effective Family Goals Tip #4: Uncover expectations
In every relationship, there are bound to be roles, responsibilities and expectations to be undertaken. To avoid the conflicts that result from unequal expectations, write down the specific expectations of each person. If those expectations are agreed on, conflict resolution becomes fairly simple compared to continuing in the same old way and falling into the same old arguments.
Setting Effective Family Goals Tip #5: Uplift each other
Sometimes when things don't seem to be going so well, do not be discouraged but continue to celebrate what you do have, be it good health, a good home, or simply each other. Always uplift each other.
Now that you've learnt the above tips on setting effective family goals, start implementing them and build healthy and loving family relationships now! Click here for more help on achieving your goals.
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